Thanks, -t. I was going for the funny whine, rather than the whiney whine.
Of course, now I'm hungry for cheese.
You're like my fairy godmother, and Santa Claus, and Q all wrapped up into one! Q from Bond, not Star Trek.
Buffy ,'Help'
Spike's Bitches 25 to Life
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
WindSparrow - Jul 25, 2005 12:10:01 pm PDT #2886 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
brenda m - Jul 25, 2005 12:11:47 pm PDT #2887 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
I think I did say something like, "Why can't I stay where I want to stay?"
"I'm staying where I want to stay," might actually work better. It's really, really hard when you're dealing with your parents - but part of getting them to treat you like an adult is leading by example. That's a tough thing to do, but you have to take the first steps if you expect them to follow.
beth b - Jul 25, 2005 12:11:58 pm PDT #2888 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
Time to find the stupid job, P-C. If watching the bank account go down with nothing going in is depressing- go get the stupid job. Today. Stop worring about what your folks are going to do, or not going to do. You don't have tiem for that.
Once you are working, you can wory about when and how you can see them again.
Your Father buys a ticket - you don't use it. His problem , not yours.
They come to see you, you are working. Thier problem not yours. ( not saying ignore them, but x amount of your time is booked)
Once you have an interview/ job interview. Call the 'rents or accept a phone call from them - or even send an email. SAy: Sorry I was so upset on the phone the other day. I was really walloped by a bunch of stuff. The lease, the job hunt, general money stuff and that burning need men have to take care of themselves. Luckily, I have a interview/ job and the prospect of bringing in a little cash has given me back my equilirbrium. I'll talk to you again , so we can work out a vist when I know my schedual better
BTW, if month to month is hard to find - someone will want to sublet your apartment when you leave. that's the way it works in a college town.
EpicTangent - Jul 25, 2005 12:13:44 pm PDT #2889 of 10001
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
If anybody's been wondering where all the crack went? Clearly whoever designed the Sorrento Valley Post Office SMOKED IT ALL, and that's why there's none left.
However, I did finally find an entrance so there's a package with a tiara, accessorized with other randon goodies, currently winging its way east. I'm so excited!
Polter-Cow - Jul 25, 2005 12:14:08 pm PDT #2890 of 10001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
I'm a little confused about this, still. Why couldn't you break your lease? It's pretty standard that there is some provision for this in most leases, though very often you'll incur a penalty.
I am too. I thought all leases had a lease-breaking provision, with a penalty, of course. Apparently, not this one.
How hard is it to find an apartment in AA - what's the likelihood that they wouldn't find a new tenant if you got a job elsewhere?
Slim? The housing market in A2 is insane. Apartments are snatched up like that. That's why the leasing season starts in November.
If the situation turns out to be that if you get a new job somewhere that's good enough to be worth moving for and you have to eat a month of rent to get out of your lease, that sounds okay.
Yeah, I mean, whatever they pay me, it's bound to be more (and, from what I could tell from the salaries for medical writers, close to twice) than what my graduate student stipend was. And if I get this first job, I'll have that goddamn experience everyone always wants.
Topic!Cindy - Jul 25, 2005 12:14:49 pm PDT #2891 of 10001
What is even happening?
I think I did say something like, "Why can't I stay where I want to stay?"This is asking for permission. Don't. If they're not funding you, and you're not looking for them to fund you, they don't get to have a say over this. They can offer suggestions, which you appreciate, because you know they come from love, but you're not obliged to follow their suggestions.
But I'm with beth. It's time to get a stupid job. Just something. If nothing else, it will be money you can use toward paying a mover, or paying that double rent.
beth b - Jul 25, 2005 12:15:32 pm PDT #2892 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
"Why can't I stay where I want to stay?
I think this sounds mean - but If I change the words a little
"W hy can't I stay at the playground"
You'll guess why you didn't get the response you wanted out of it.
brenda's words are good
lisah - Jul 25, 2005 12:17:32 pm PDT #2893 of 10001
Punishingly Intricate
I thought all leases had a lease-breaking provision, with a penalty, of course. Apparently, not this one.
uh...they can't force you to stay. I'd say it's time to research Tenant rights in your state.
§ ita § - Jul 25, 2005 12:18:30 pm PDT #2894 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
they can't force you to stay
But they may be able to force you to pay.
I ended up paying out my last month when I left MI.
lisah - Jul 25, 2005 12:21:40 pm PDT #2895 of 10001
Punishingly Intricate
But they may be able to force you to pay.
Oh yes of course. But can they really make you pay for 12 months of rent?
I ended up paying out my last month when I left MI.
That seems more reasonable.
And, really, even if it is true that they can make you pay for the whole lease, if the rental market in AA is so tight it seems like it would be no problem to get a subletter if the opportunity came to move before the lease was up.