Time to find the stupid job, P-C. If watching the bank account go down with nothing going in is depressing- go get the stupid job. Today. Stop worring about what your folks are going to do, or not going to do. You don't have tiem for that.

Once you are working, you can wory about when and how you can see them again.

Your Father buys a ticket - you don't use it. His problem , not yours.

They come to see you, you are working. Thier problem not yours. ( not saying ignore them, but x amount of your time is booked)

Once you have an interview/ job interview. Call the 'rents or accept a phone call from them - or even send an email. SAy: Sorry I was so upset on the phone the other day. I was really walloped by a bunch of stuff. The lease, the job hunt, general money stuff and that burning need men have to take care of themselves. Luckily, I have a interview/ job and the prospect of bringing in a little cash has given me back my equilirbrium. I'll talk to you again , so we can work out a vist when I know my schedual better

BTW, if month to month is hard to find - someone will want to sublet your apartment when you leave. that's the way it works in a college town.

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If anybody's been wondering where all the crack went? Clearly whoever designed the Sorrento Valley Post Office SMOKED IT ALL, and that's why there's none left.

However, I did finally find an entrance so there's a package with a tiara, accessorized with other randon goodies, currently winging its way east. I'm so excited!

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I'm a little confused about this, still. Why couldn't you break your lease? It's pretty standard that there is some provision for this in most leases, though very often you'll incur a penalty.

I am too. I thought all leases had a lease-breaking provision, with a penalty, of course. Apparently, not this one.

How hard is it to find an apartment in AA - what's the likelihood that they wouldn't find a new tenant if you got a job elsewhere?

Slim? The housing market in A2 is insane. Apartments are snatched up like that. That's why the leasing season starts in November.

If the situation turns out to be that if you get a new job somewhere that's good enough to be worth moving for and you have to eat a month of rent to get out of your lease, that sounds okay.

Yeah, I mean, whatever they pay me, it's bound to be more (and, from what I could tell from the salaries for medical writers, close to twice) than what my graduate student stipend was. And if I get this first job, I'll have that goddamn experience everyone always wants.

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I think I did say something like, "Why can't I stay where I want to stay?"

This is asking for permission. Don't. If they're not funding you, and you're not looking for them to fund you, they don't get to have a say over this. They can offer suggestions, which you appreciate, because you know they come from love, but you're not obliged to follow their suggestions.

But I'm with beth. It's time to get a stupid job. Just something. If nothing else, it will be money you can use toward paying a mover, or paying that double rent.

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"Why can't I stay where I want to stay?

I think this sounds mean - but If I change the words a little

"W hy can't I stay at the playground"

You'll guess why you didn't get the response you wanted out of it.

brenda's words are good

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I thought all leases had a lease-breaking provision, with a penalty, of course. Apparently, not this one.

uh...they can't force you to stay. I'd say it's time to research Tenant rights in your state.

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they can't force you to stay

But they may be able to force you to pay.

I ended up paying out my last month when I left MI.

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But they may be able to force you to pay.

Oh yes of course. But can they really make you pay for 12 months of rent?

I ended up paying out my last month when I left MI.

That seems more reasonable.

And, really, even if it is true that they can make you pay for the whole lease, if the rental market in AA is so tight it seems like it would be no problem to get a subletter if the opportunity came to move before the lease was up.

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I am too. I thought all leases had a lease-breaking provision, with a penalty, of course. Apparently, not this one.

Slim? The housing market in A2 is insane. Apartments are snatched up like that. That's why the leasing season starts in November.

OK, there's some bullshit going on somewhere. You need to see a copy of the actual lease. Landlords often say that a lease can't be broken, when they actually mean it can't be broken without penalty. And frankly, it's better for them if they lease to someone who won't break it, so they're going to make it sound as written in stone as they can. Read the lease - I'll bet there's something in there, like 30 or 60 day liablity, or full lease term liability if they are unable to relet, etc.

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That seems more reasonable.

That's what I had left on the lease. They were firm in insisting I pay whatever remained on the lease (and I do remember, albeit vaguely, assuming this responsibility when I signed it -- whether it was legal as written, I dunno. bon bon will -- she's a lawyer who rented in A2).

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