Is there any way you can contact him and talk to him ?

You really think that guy's a good resource? I'm not seeing so much good judgement there.

That's pretty much exactly what I said to her, and I got no response.

She doesn't have to respond. You're informing her (politely and lovingly, I hope, but informing her) not asking for permission.

Look, I'm going to be blunt with you, because I find it cuts through the stress better than being tender. I'm doing it out of respect for you too Sunil, because you are an adult.

Here's your deal, right? You have to either commit to living where you are for another year (or otherwise remaining responsible for it by subletting, or paying double rent), or give up your apartment when the old lease runs out, which I as I understand it is some time in August.

You should have been on top of that yourself, if you want to be treated like an adult by your folks. Every time you allow/ask them to administrate some sort of detail like this, you're being their child, not their adult son. And as an adult, you should have realized this was going to come up, and that you might not have the sort of job you're looking for, before you had to resolve this housing issue. This housing thing is something you should have already sorted for yourself, if you want to be seen as an adult.

So here's what you have to do. You have decide: Can you commit to living in Ann Arbor for the next year? Would you find that too limiting, career-wise? If so, you've got to give up the apartment. Then your options are either...

• Getting a month-to-month rental, or
  
• Moving back with your folks, until you get a job.

There's no wrong decision here. But there's no magic solution, either. You can't just depend on a job coming through, because that's outside of your control. You can't stay where you are, and move out when you please, without fulfilling your legal agreement with your landlord.

You can keep the apartment for the next year, and decide you're either...

• Willing to take the hit financially (or find a subletter); or
  
• Limit your job search to places accessible from your apartment.

If you know you're going to probably end up in Texas before you get a job, you might as well go home and not make this particular issue *the* issue on which you choose to make your stand with your folks.

If I were you, and I'm clearly not, I would seriously consider signing the lease for the next year, and getting myself some filler job, so that you can keep paying the rent, and restrict my job search to the greater Ann Arbor area. If nothing good comes up by like April, you start looking far and wide again, and at most, you'll only be taking a hit on the rent for a couple of months, if you get dream job.

Getting the kind of job you want right out of school is nearly impossible. It happens, but most people settle for a steady paycheck and health insurance, knowing they need to prove themselves, and they need to keep eating while they prove themselves.

Whatever you choose, I hope you feel easy in it. And I hope you can find relief from the stress.

Scratch my previous post.

Yeah, but jumping would again restrict my job search to a particular area, which I don't think is a good idea at this point, given how hard it's been to find positions I'm even remotely qualified for.

That's fine. Stay where you are if that gives you the best options. you might think about moving to a month-to-month rentl to avoid thelease problem, but if that's too much of a headache just accept that you have to deal with the lease if it becomes a problem. Don't worry about it until it is a problem. You have enough trouble with the parental boundary issues, no need to borrow any.

If it helps any, this is really hard to do even when your parents are being totally accepting and wonderful. At least, it was for me

You should have been on top of that yourself, if you want to be treated like an adult by your folks.

I was. My plan, as I told them many, many times, was always to stay here until I found a job. Initially, I was going to find an actual job, but when that didn't pan out, my job search branched out. The plan was then a little fuzzier, and I knew that when the time came, I'd either have to break my lease or find a subletter. It was definitely my fault not to find out that breaking my lease would not be an option, but I would deal with that when I got my actual job offer. At no time did I ever suggest to my parents that I would be willing to move back home. I always said I'd find some stupid job here to support me while I look for a real job.

If I were you, and I'm clearly not, I would seriously consider signing the lease for the next year, and getting myself some filler job, so that you can keep paying the rent, and restrict my job search to the greater Ann Arbor area. If nothing good comes up by like April, you start looking far and wide again, and at most, you'll only be taking a hit on the rent for a couple of months, if you get dream job.

As I said earlier, restricting my location turned out to be a mistake, and I'm prepared to deal with any hoops I might need to jump through if I find a job somewhere else.

{{{{PC}}}} Lots of good advice comin' thru here, I have nothing to add, but virtual hugs and hairpats, wishing I could deliver them in person, and wishing you all the ~ma you'll need to find some resolution in this. 'Cuz clearly that's something you need in spades - this whole situation has been tying you up in knots for so long...

I am currently annoyed with the entire state of Minnesota.

I had towels and sheets hanging out on the line, only out there for an hour or so. Slowly the sky gets darker and darker. I hear nothing to alert me - no dust storms, no thunder. Just as I reach to turn on the desk lamp, it occurs to me that it's only 4pm, and this time of year it doesn't get dark until 9ish. Or until it starts raining.

How am I supposed to know it is raining outside if the roof is not made of metal?

P-C, I"m going to give yo one more piece of advice. You do not have to explain your decisions to yoru parents. You do not have to defend your decision to stay in Ann Arbor. You do not have participate in a debate as to whether going on vaation for the first two weeks of August would be a good idea. Why have yo mader that decision? because it's what yo think is best. But why, specifically? You don't want to go into it, you thought long and hard and tried to take everything into account and explaining it all would be so much work.

Once you've made the decision, it's made. Don't open the door to attempts to unmake it.

It's either that or come up with a power point presentation on every choice you make from here on out for the rest of your life.

I'm sorry to laugh, Windsparrow, but that's funny.

When I'm not the one who has to deal with the wet laundry, etc., anyway.

You do not have to explain your decisions to yoru parents.

I think I did say something like, "Why can't I stay where I want to stay?" To no avail.

It's either that or come up with a power point presentation on every choice you make from here on out for the rest of your life.

Ooh, I could put that shit on my résumé.