t mini-meara catch-up
Happy birthday, vw!!
Yeah, you've got it right. I can choose to stay here, but it would be all parent-defying and shit.
Personally, I think you *should* stay there and be all parent-defying. If you have to take a retail job to pay the rent, so be it, but stay there and tell your parents that their pulling this sort of thing has ensured you will NEVER move home if there is anything you can do to avoid it, including sleeping on friends' couches.
Heh. See, whereas I was thinkign "Oh, sure, Jilli's all "you loook great! You should be goth ALL the time!" seducing another one to the goth side..."
Cripes, are my motives that transparent?
(thinks about it)
Eh, they probably are.
Maybe you can take me on a real goth night sometime?
Yep! Come to Seattle, I'll cart you out to the clubs.
In other words was Johnny Cash a Goth Cowboy?
Mr. Cash wasn't actually goth, but is one of the forefathers of the current movement.
Goths going to club nights wearing black t-shirts and jeans are being LAZY, and should have all their music confiscated until they start behaving better.
((P-C))
That's just ... just ... how do they honestly even expect this to end? Cause I'm not sensing hugs and a yen to marry the girl they'll have all picked out.
Can you get a deferrment? (Unemployment is a valid reason)
Ooh, really? Awesome. I'll have to look into that if this week doesn't turn out to have the boffo job response it's supposed to (the KC job has a new hiring manager who's ready to start interviewing people, and he just got back today; the CT job was supposed to be get back to me in 1-2 weeks, and tomorrow will make it a month).
stay there and tell your parents that their pulling this sort of thing has ensured you will NEVER move home if there is anything you can do to avoid it, including sleeping on friends' couches.
I'll try.
P-C, where is your quote from?
How about wearing black jeans and a black tank top and an ankh necklace and eye of horus eyeliner? Is that acceptable?
This is gonna be a big conversation, P-C. Try to stay calm, work out what you want to say beforehand if you can. Don't let your parents set the terms. Good luck.
Can you get a deferrment? (Unemployment is a valid reason)
Yeah, I don't know how this works, but I have many friends who have done it. In fact, that's my plan unless I find a job I really want that is conducive to mothering a small baby.
P-C's quote is from Dinosaur comics, the greatest thing you will read this week.
Also, {{P-C}}
I've got about nine months before I go bankrupt. Probably fewer, since I'll have to start repaying my loan during that time.
Temp and Defer! It's the post-graduate, hasn't landed dream job way! (And unless things have changed dramatically in the last 10 years you don't actually need to be completely unemployed to defer. You just have to show financial hardship.)
tell your parents that their pulling this sort of thing has ensured you will NEVER move home if there is anything you can do to avoid it
P-C, I'm not going to recommend that you say that (but I'm also not going to recommend not saying it).
What I am going to say is that you're an adult now. You're supporting yourself financially. This gives you power in your relationship with your parents, a lot more than you had as a child. You have the power to control contact, for example.
I'm not saying it's easy. But sometime (when you aren't so stressed out over your parents, and I don't have a memo to get to my boss) I'll tell you about my tangled (lack of) relationship with my parents. For now, I'll just say that the only way they can contact me is by snail mail.
But the decision is yours. Not theirs. Yours. And if they want to try to steamroller you, they now run a real risk of negative consequences for themselves.
