Mental health is overrated. Bah.
Here's the thing: therapy was really good for me. One of the things I learned -- and it was hard work -- is that I've always had shitty boundaries (or none at all) in my relationships with everyone. Family, friends, boyfriends, etc.
And, well, now that I know that, I intend to start setting healthy boundaries with people. Only -- just because I'm determined to change, doesn't mean that (1) other people will like it, or that (2) I'll be able to enforce those boundaries.
So far, all I have is the intent, the resolve, that there are going to be some boundaries, by god. My actual follow-through, however, hasn't been so great. When the ignoring of boundaries comes from the other person's neediness, I'm unable to say Cut That Shit Out, because I'm too afraid of hurting the other person. Particularly when it's my Dad. Or a close friend.
Bah. All the good intents in the world aren't going to help if I can't follow through. This sucks. I'd rather be mentally unwell again.
Cheerios:
Cashmere! I saw a billboard for the Aquarium on my way to work this morning, announcing that they are the only aquarium in the western hemisphere with a shark ray. And I thought, "I need to go to the Aquarium!"
So -- you should bring Big O. the Nudist down here some weekend, and we can look at the fishies!
Surgery~ma for erika's mom.
Quilting history: [link] I don't know if it has what you want, vw, but it's interesting.
So -- you should bring Big O. the Nudist down here some weekend, and we can look at the fishies!
This is a good plan. We need to plan for a day in August. Our next two weekends are buggered but August is wide open and O and I need to get out of the house to let his father study for an actuarial exam.
We need to plan for a day in August. Our next two weekends are buggered but August is wide open and O and I need to get out of the house to let his father study for an actuarial exam.
I'm gone the first week and weekend, but any other weekend after that is good. Fishies! Live nude baby!
Let's shoot for either the 13th or the 20th.
Oh, actually -- it'll have to be the 13th. Because the weekend of the 20th, my bro and SiL will be home for Reception #2, and I'm sure there'll be an assload of family stuff to do then.
So, the 13th? Or the 27th.
Belated birthday happies for juilana.
I'm a wee bit distracted and not focussy. My brother got married on Friday. Happy making but also leaving me off balance.
Bah. All the good intents in the world aren't going to help if I can't follow through.
I don't really think that's true. I think just being aware when you're getting into a situation that maybe you should be handling otherwise is a big step forward. It's not all the way there, but it's something.
