Spike's Bitches 24: I'm Very Seldom Naughty.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
But I was doing the best I knew how to do, and I feel like I got attacked for it.
I just read the last hundred or so posts, Susan, and I'm sorry you felt that way. I can't speak for anyone else, but what I read seemed to me like friends who care trying to help you. And that's tough when you're worried, and you sense people are telling you not to, but I think the gist is that everyone here wants you to enjoy not just Annabel, but your time with her.
My only bit of advice? As silly as it sounds, engage her in conversation. If you say, "Do you want some apple?" wait for her to respond. She won't, of course, but it can be useful to give her the idea of what a conversation is like, the give and take.
{{{Susan}}}
Sorry to hear about your mom's friend, Plei.
Given other problems discussed I know this seems petty. But I'm typing one handed standing up again. Can I just say FUCK ?
That sounds like when I dislocated my shoulder and my arm was in a sling. You may indeed say FUCK, TB.
With me, the very top disk of my spine is bulging and pressing on a nerve. The three hours of stretching a day is no longer controlling it. Have to schedule a new cortizone injection and hope it buys me another six months. But it will be three to six weeks to schedule the injection. So that is another thee to six weeks I'll only be able to work 2 hours a day.
{{{{Susan}}}}
FWIW, you seemed pretty mellow to me, although we didn't get much time together. And Annabel seemed like a healthy, happy, intelligent, energetic little girl, so you must be doing something right.
{{{{Typo Boy}}}}
That totally and completely sucks TB. I was just thinking about your earlier tribulations today as a read an article on ergonomics and said a little prayer that I wouldn't end up in that situation. I am so sorry that you have again.
I love my daughter. I made that phone call today because A) I wanted to set my own mind at ease, and B) because if Annabel needed any help, I wanted to make sure she got it as soon as possible, and I didn't feel like the people at my pede's office cared.
Susan, I don't know that anyone was reacting to the fact that you made the call. At least for me (and from what she posted I assume the same is true for erika) it was
what
you said and
how
you said what you said about making the call.
I can't continue with what I'd actually like to say in this post. I know what it is like to worry, but I also know what it's like to ride a roller coaster, and I ain't buying a ticket.
I hope everything is fine with your little girl. From all your everyday conversation about her, she sounds charming, bright, and healthy. I hope you don't let your worrying rob you of these very sweet years that pass so quickly.
Typo, I'm so sorry. You poor guy. Enough is enough.
AmyLiz!!
tacklehugs and smooches big fat kisses all over the face
We missed you!
Hate to smooch and run, but I'ma working tomorrow and it's past my bedtime.
{{Susan}} I'm glad you got the answers you were looking for. I think all anyone here wants is for you to feel good about yourself and what you're doing for Annabel, which you should. You're doing what we all end up doing, the best we can with what we've got.
Hi.
Susan, I understand why the posts would be upsetting to you. At risk of being too blunt, I think what people were commenting on was less the specific concern, and more that you've been worrying so much about Annabel every step of the way, and that was just the latest manifestation. From this side of the computer, it looks like you're at risk of either worrying yourself into a coma or driving both you and Annabel nuts with overprotection.
You have a beautiful, bright, daughter, and you are clearly a very caring mom. I hope you can relax into that.
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I was just concerned about your concerns, Susan. Didn't mean to add to your angst. I hope everything turns out okay...it just made me sad, your being hard on yourself...which, okay, pot. Kettle. Black. But I think I understand why Hec and Tep(for instance) bust me for it so very hard. I felt like I would not have been a good friend if I had not said something(And I really do hope Mom did not have to carry that kind of pain around by herself.)
It was intended as...affection, and maybe a pep talk if you found something...unexpected. It's not that I blame you for hoping that your kid has a life of the mind or something, because they're cool.