I would take it up with BigBoss.

I wrote Mid-Boss back an email that said I was under the impression that since the lunch was at the prompting of Big-Boss, it would be paid for by Big-Boss. Ball is in Mid-Boss' court. She can go either go to Big Boss and ask for the money, ask me again, or eat it.

Jilli, Plei, Susan, (and possibly Sparky or any other Seattleistas)...

I have a friend who has only been in Seattle a couple of years, and is in need of a good doctor, probably an orthopedic surgeon, or possibly an osteopath. Can you recommend anyone, or ask around to friends/family, and see if they can?

She's been having trouble with her elbow for about a month. Her whole arm just throbs in pain all the time. She thought at first she'd try an osteo, because most of her complaints are generally muscular/skeletal stuff. She went to one, but had a bad experience.

Sparky's in the Bay Area. She just visits us sometimes.

I have no clue. Growing up, I was with Group Health, and it's all a pool. Now, I still need to find a PCP. I don't think anyone I know has used one.

Okay, thanks anyhow, Plei. Is your mom in your area? I know she's a nurse. Maybe she might know.

Sorry for misplacing you, Sparky.

I did not speak at all, not a peep, until I was 2.

And everyone but my mom and dad thought i was retarded, and that they were being neglectful for not being worried about it.

I ended up not being retarded. I think. FWIW.

Susan, I was somewhat speech-delayed as a baby, and was in speech therapy from ages 4 to 11 and then again from about 14 to 16. As an adult, the only thing anyone notices is that I have a bit of a lisp. (I really have no idea how noticable it is -- my father insists that he doesn't hear it at all and can't figure out why I'm sometimes self-conscious about it, but there have been other times when I've had trouble making myself understood and have had to stop and rephrase what I'm saying with less troublesome sounds, so I really don't know.)

So I'll second all the people who said that if there is a problem, it's something you can deal with, but it's probably far more likely that she's fine.

She might know, but she hasn't worked in a hospital for almost two decades, and she's also in the Group Health system, so her knowledge of outside practitioners is going to be slim to none.

What Plei said, although if my hubby could find a good job in Seattle we'd probably flee the Bay Area. ('cuz we're so warped Seattle houses sound cheap to us!)

The only osteopaths I know are second cousins in Waterville, ME and Hilsdale, MI, respectively. I can ask the Seattle friends who aren't Seattlistas if they have any recommendations.

I was somewhat speech-delayed as a baby,

Oh dear. She might only be as smart as Hil! That is a problem...

t /tongue very much in cheek

OK, the nurse at the pede just called back, and took the time to let me detail my concerns, which was cool. She said that she really wishes they'd change, or at least finesse the wording, of that item on the checklists, because there is such a wide normal range for language acquisition. At 15 months, they worry if a child doesn't babble and make sounds (which Annabel does), or doesn't seem to understand speech and generally interact with the world around her (which Annabel does in spades), or seems to have hearing problems (certainly doesn't seem to be the case, because she responds to sounds, dances to music, etc.), but 18 months is more the appropriate time to worry about using words. She said it sounded like I was doing a fine job and don't need to start following Annabel around talking to her all the time, but I might help her and give myself peace of mind by making a point of reading to her daily and talking to her about things we see when we're out together. Also that not talking at this stage probably says very little about her intelligence and much more about her personality and/or learning style. And I've already pegged Annabel as being fairly introverted, an observant type, someone who learns through intuitive leaps, and quite possibly a bit of a perfectionist, all of which might lead to late talking.

So. Feeling less worried, and happy that I finally got someone who didn't just handwave my concerns away.