Hil, when you get a second and are well rested, explain to me what "Not all kipahs are orange" means, please.

Orange is the color being used by the anti-disengagement protesters. It's everywhere -- orange ribbons tied to cars or pinned onto backpacks, orange hats, orange t-shirts, orange bracelets, and usually with the slogan "Jews don't expell Jews." (It sounds a bit better in Hebrew.) The pro-disengagement camp is using blue, but that seemed to just start to be taking hold during the time I was there. Melchior's party is a moderate religious party which, unlike most of the religious parties in Israel, is in favor of the disengagement plan.

Thanks, I thought it was something like that but google wasn't telling me what orange means.

as women don't take their husband's name at marriage

It always fascinates me, naming practices with marriage. I'm trying to remember if women always took their husbands' names in English culture.

It's very uncommon in Quebec as well.

In all of Canada it's something you have to do on purpose -- the assumption seems to be slipping away.

You have to do it on purpose in the US, too. Legally anyway. I mean, I've kept my name just out of not doing anything about it.

Though I have cleverly taken the AIM nickname of TamaraSff that will work with either possible lastname.

You have to do it on purpose in the US, too.

Is that a change? I'm trying to remember back 20 years to when I filled out all the wedding paperwork, and all I remember is giggling maniacally over how grown-up it all felt. I know I went to the driver's license folks to tell them about the name change but I think that was more me going, "Married now, have new name, best tell the major ID people." The electric bill is still in my maiden name (crap, I have a new mailman, he may not realize Connie R*** is me when he tries to deliver the bill).

I don't know. I think it might just be that filling out the paperwork was a more automatic part of getting married?

I think it might just be that filling out the paperwork was a more automatic part of getting married?

Probably so. No one notified various agencies on my behalf. Still, it's a hard expectation to break. Sister Amy still deals with people addressing her as Amy DH's-Name. She politely tells them that no one of that name lives there.

I'm trying to remember back 20 years to when I filled out all the wedding paperwork, and all I remember is giggling maniacally over how grown-up it all felt.

That's it. Next time I get hitched, I'm writing maniacal laughter into the wedding vows. Probably right after "Do you take this woman?"

I just skimmed a couple Canadian sites and they (Yukon and Saskatchewan) were very "Oh, you can call yourself by his name if you want -- it's not really a name change, there's no paperwork, and you can stop whenever you want to."

Which confuses me.