as women don't take their husband's name at marriage
It always fascinates me, naming practices with marriage. I'm trying to remember if women always took their husbands' names in English culture.
It's very uncommon in Quebec as well.
Simon: I'm trying to put this as delicately as I can... How do I know you won't kill me in my sleep? Mal: You don't know me, son. So let me explain this to you once: If I ever kill you, you'll be awake, you'll be facing me, and you'll be armed.
'Serenity'
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brenda m - Jul 01, 2005 5:04:22 am PDT #8054 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
§ ita § - Jul 01, 2005 5:16:55 am PDT #8055 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
In all of Canada it's something you have to do on purpose -- the assumption seems to be slipping away.
-t - Jul 01, 2005 5:24:14 am PDT #8056 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
You have to do it on purpose in the US, too. Legally anyway. I mean, I've kept my name just out of not doing anything about it.
Though I have cleverly taken the AIM nickname of TamaraSff that will work with either possible lastname.
Connie Neil - Jul 01, 2005 5:29:15 am PDT #8057 of 10001
brillig
You have to do it on purpose in the US, too.
Is that a change? I'm trying to remember back 20 years to when I filled out all the wedding paperwork, and all I remember is giggling maniacally over how grown-up it all felt. I know I went to the driver's license folks to tell them about the name change but I think that was more me going, "Married now, have new name, best tell the major ID people." The electric bill is still in my maiden name (crap, I have a new mailman, he may not realize Connie R*** is me when he tries to deliver the bill).
-t - Jul 01, 2005 5:34:29 am PDT #8058 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I don't know. I think it might just be that filling out the paperwork was a more automatic part of getting married?
Connie Neil - Jul 01, 2005 5:37:22 am PDT #8059 of 10001
brillig
I think it might just be that filling out the paperwork was a more automatic part of getting married?
Probably so. No one notified various agencies on my behalf. Still, it's a hard expectation to break. Sister Amy still deals with people addressing her as Amy DH's-Name. She politely tells them that no one of that name lives there.
billytea - Jul 01, 2005 5:38:58 am PDT #8060 of 10001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
I'm trying to remember back 20 years to when I filled out all the wedding paperwork, and all I remember is giggling maniacally over how grown-up it all felt.
That's it. Next time I get hitched, I'm writing maniacal laughter into the wedding vows. Probably right after "Do you take this woman?"
§ ita § - Jul 01, 2005 5:39:52 am PDT #8061 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I just skimmed a couple Canadian sites and they (Yukon and Saskatchewan) were very "Oh, you can call yourself by his name if you want -- it's not really a name change, there's no paperwork, and you can stop whenever you want to."
Which confuses me.
Connie Neil - Jul 01, 2005 5:40:48 am PDT #8062 of 10001
brillig
I'm writing maniacal laughter into the wedding vows
It couldn't hurt. I had to stop looking at soon-to-be-Hubby because my brain either went to "Oh, gosh, he's cute" or "I'm playing dress-up, whee!"
P.M. Marc - Jul 01, 2005 5:54:15 am PDT #8063 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
They asked when we got our license if I was changing my name, which required additional forms. I wasn't, so we didn't.
Plei, are you seriously attached to the idea of a dress for the wedding?
Sadly, yes. I considered skirt + top, as that's my usual deal, but at the moment, my 5'2" looks like a busty stump in separates. Ah well. Something will be found, even if I have to hum a few bars and fake it.
Stephanie, sidelying was impossible until Lily was at least a month old. It really does get easier as they get bigger. Until, you know, they get stubborn and only want to nurse that way. At which point, the ease is only physical.
Lemon laws in this state are pretty specific and really only apply to new cars. It's totally possible that the car is in decent physical condition aside from some minor issues. It's just that the minor issues eat up the cost savings of getting a $3500 car instead of a $4500 car.