I was happy my mother told me so a phone message with the word "oncologist" in it was not a shock. People keeping cats in bags should know they have unexpected ways of coming out.
What? She killed 'em with mathematics. What else could it have been?
Jayne ,'Objects In Space'
Spike's Bitches 24: I'm Very Seldom Naughty.
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erikaj - Jun 30, 2005 2:01:19 pm PDT #7897 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!
Scrappy - Jun 30, 2005 2:02:16 pm PDT #7898 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
I think the sick/being tested person gets to choose when to tell. It sucks to be out of the loop (thanks for not telling me my dad was in the hospital with his second heart attack until the NEXT DAY, mom), but their needs come first, even if that means bad times for us healthy folk.
DawnK - Jun 30, 2005 2:04:32 pm PDT #7899 of 10001
giraffe mode
Yeah, I get it but still I missed time to be with my dad. He didn't make it out of the surgery so I wish I could have come home early to spend a little more time with him.
§ ita § - Jun 30, 2005 2:05:13 pm PDT #7900 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
what they didn't think you'd notice??
My father ratted her out, as was very sensible.
So I yelled at her. Which, well, teenaged denseness. I'm not a medical worrier, and she's a pro. It was so not the time for me to be offended, even though she was WRONGWRONGWRONG.
As a result, I tend to tell them things a bit sparingly. She's worst case, and I'm all "sure, whatever."
Robin, you really think that having a parent disappear is somehow the better solution? Hell, there were intermediate lies they could have spun, but she had no plans.
P.M. Marc - Jun 30, 2005 2:08:55 pm PDT #7901 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Robin, my problem is that my mother always assumes I already know. It's not that she's trying to keep such things from me, it's that she tells everyone else, then THINKS she's told me.
It's really annoying.
The not-finding-out about aunthood thing, mind, was in fact family drama and my mother being childish.
Laura - Jun 30, 2005 2:09:45 pm PDT #7902 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.
I often rat out my siblings to my mother. She always knows that something is up, so I fill in the blanks.
Topic!Cindy - Jun 30, 2005 2:10:55 pm PDT #7903 of 10001
What is even happening?
As a result, I tend to tell them things a bit sparingly. She's worst case, and I'm all "sure, whatever."
Speaking of, how did your MRI turn out for something that might be nothing, or might be serious?
Laura - Jun 30, 2005 2:12:10 pm PDT #7904 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.
The family doesn't so much leave me out of the loop on purpose. They forget to tell me stuff. I do live away from them and hate the phone, but I email them all the time so it's not like they don't have an opportunity to tell me stuff.
§ ita § - Jun 30, 2005 2:12:42 pm PDT #7905 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Speaking of, how did your MRI turn out for something that might be nothing, or might be serious?
Fuck, thanks for reminding me -- I don't have the results. I need to re-pester all the doctors concerned. I'll call now, instead of hurling evil thoughts over my cube wall at the lip-smacker.
Aims - Jun 30, 2005 2:14:51 pm PDT #7906 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
In LJ, if you friended someone and they never friended you back, it's a pretty safe bet that they could give a shit, yes?