Okay, the shower ought not to be thrown by the bride (or her immediate family) in the first place. If she is throwing it, she ought to be doing so only ***behind the scenes*** to help out people (like beloved but broke friends and bridesmaids) who wanted to throw one for her, but were broke. And the invitations should go out in the name of the friends.
She OUGHT NOT be hosting a "SHOWER" at a place where guests have to PAY for the privilege of giving her gifts. That is the work of a bridezilla. She might be a pleasant, stealthy bridezilla, but it's a bridezilla thing.
I think you are perfectly and well within the bounds to say, "That's not really a shower, if you're throwing it yourself, and people have to pay to attend. Why don't you do it as a bachelorette activity type of thing, and I'll have a small shower at my place for you and [immediate circle of friends and her mom -- like 10 people].
Then, if other people want to throw her other showers, they can, too.
Aimee, that's in serious bad taste. Miss Manners and DearAbby would be seriously appalled.
Before I read that I was going to say you should look into WIC. I know when I was working at a grocery store I know that cereal, juice, milk, formula, cheese, infant cereal, peanut butter, and I think dried beans as well.
See, that pisses me off. Being a bridesmaid should be on her budget, not yours. Suffice it to say, I'm also not down with you paying for your dress or shoes or anything.
Dress = $280.00 (she's paying for half)
Shoes = about $70.00
Joe's Tux = $175.00
Plus, toss in plane tickets, gift, etc.
Is this her only shower?
Nope. This will be shower #2 that I will be attending. I will also be at the one in Michigan.
I may need to step away from the discussion, though, because I am really mad about this.
Please don't - I need my peeps! I'm mad.
She's NOT hosting the shower - her matron of honor is. Her matron of honor is flying in from Minneapolis to do this.
So you are going?
More than likely, yeah. Because I a) have no spine when it comes to her and b) well, I'm not getting her a gift for this shower since she'll get one at her Michigan shower AND I'll prolly throw the bachlorette party so I'ma treat myself to a facial.
Skipping to say -- DUH!
I'm sorting cds to sell, and I don't know why I am getting all weepy about selling them. I have them downloaded, the music isn't gone or anything. I just feel like I'm betraying them. Poor little guys. DVDs are another story. I tried, I really did. But I picked up 'Down With Love' and Ewan was just smiling at me so rakishly from the cover, and I couldn't do it. I started to pick up 'Girl With the Pearl Earring' but really, who am I kidding.
You are brilliant! I can do this and sell my CD's! You just saved me from hocking my TV! I love you!
Now, back to Bridezilla.
Oh, Aimee. Say you can't afford it, and can't dream of her letting her treat, it wouldn't seem right, and that you'll be at the one in MI. This is way the frig over the top.
Aimée, it boggles my mind how she can do this without realizing the impact on people. All I'm left thinking is, "gee, I really hope that woman gave Emma a nice gift when she was born and remembers how much Aimée did for her when Aimée's birthday comes around."
They are Emma's godparents and have spent more money on her than I don't even know what. She footed the bill for my baby shower AND bought me my glider. This is why I'm having a hard time reconciling what my gut tells me is right, and everything that she's done for us and how can I say no?
