Sean, how long have you been dating your gf?

We started dating back in about October of last year, and neither of us thought it would turn into a serious thing. We started getting a little more serious in about February or so, and then about April, I started spending 95% of my time here, sleeping over pretty much every night.

We've been talking about the moving in thing for about a month, and realized it was time.

Yay Sean!

Yay askye!

And I am off to watch pool league. I smell all yummy because I finally took time to collect on a gift certificate for a massage I received for Christmas. Mmmm massage. I shouldn't have waited so long, but busy busy all the damn time.

Also, I took a really bold step with my sister today. Over the last year (or 20) she has become unbearable to talk to on the phone because all she does is complain non-stop about everything in her life. It gets really old. I'm not saying that her boss doesn't suck or that the kids aren't impossible, but bitching to everyone in earshot doesn't help those things.

So I got a long email from her. 1st sentence was to thank me for a gift I picked up for her in New Orleans, then 10 paragraphs of moaning. Her job, my brother, my ex-sil, our niece and nephew, her doctor, her computer. It was a written version of her phone conversations.

Gulp. I wrote her back and told her I was forced to don my sisterly concern hat and that it has become apparent that she has sunk into a pit of negativity and she needs to break the habit. I worded it in a concerned gentle way, and this is stuff she knows. Then I linked to a couple nice articles on breaking the negativity habit and finding gratitude.

The rest of the family is as weary of her complaining as I am, but I guess I am the first to attempt intervention. So I guess I need some take~it~in~the~spirit~it~was~intended~ma. Gulp.

We've been talking about the moving in thing for about a month, and realized it was time.

Yes.

also, Good luck Laura.

You know what doesn't suck? Having a region free DVD player! WIll be watching Dr. Who tomorrow night.

Ouch, Laura. It's so hard to say stuff that people really need to hear for their own good. They are so rarely grateful, but it would be kinda mean if we didn't even try.

Laura, you always say things so gently and well, I'm sure it will be okay.

It is tough Katie, and I wouldn't have tried if I didn't know that she knows this stuff. She has had years of counseling (too long ago) where she covered this material. At this point I cringe when I see her number on caller id, and the rest of the family does the same thing. My poor mother gets the worst of it since she calls her to complain almost daily. Mom is in her 80's. She doesn't need that crap. Last summer she delayed leaving FL for NY for 3 months because she didn't want to leave my sister. That's not fair to my mother.

Thanks Cindy. I did choose my words very carefully. I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want her to alienate every person in her life either.

Mostly I'm glad the soon-to-be-ex roommate took it well, and I'm hoping (and it looks like) it won't screw him too much. Just the regular amount.

t pictures this, goes to happy place

t due to having never met neo-nazi-friend-fire-playing-with roommate, am forced to picture former roommate and Sean screwing just the right amount

t FORCED I say

and neither of us thought it would turn into a serious thing.

Yep, that's what Brendon and I thought too. Funny how this stuff happens.

edit: and finally he is ready to go out the door. Good thing I don't have school in the morning any more. Yay for summer vacation.