I don't know about your actual question, but Dean's going to have some jesus splinters on his fingers.

I have a note from my doctor with regards to limited range of motion turning my head, but it definitely seems like gay (imaginary) guys manage to kiss face to face full on the lips a lot while actually fucking back to front. It's a miracle, it is. If they can do that, clearly god is in favour of gayness.

Well, the kissing part isn't that difficult unless the top's significantly shorter than the bottom, but it's more like your faces are side-to-side and turned toward each other rather than directly opposite.

Unless Reed Richards or Plastic Man is one of the parties involved, anyway.

I'm not dating you can't kiss from that position, just that descriptions often seem to make it sound, well, opposite.

I have to mentally insert that there is torso-twisting and leaning to the side involved to make it work.

There's a lot of mental gymnastics involved in too many scenes to make them work. Sometimes the physical descriptions are so vague as to make me unsure what position they were in to start with, and where they are at any given point. Are they still standing? Oh, they're not? When did that happen?

I swear, they're always pressed back-to-front, and nose-to-nose, and I'm thinking "Where is your penis poking him at this time?"

My inappropriate response is that they have Spike's penis, with the ability and footage to navigate pants that are still up.

ita, are you thinking of personification? Above, I don't really see it -- they're just using descriptive verbs. I'd write that fingers were digging into something, for instance.

What is the term for when parts of the body are given agency in description?

Possibly this is related to epithets? Many years ago this was called The Zombie Hand of Rob Lowe.

ETA: I meant to say the zombie hand phenomenon is similar, but probably not exactly what you're describing.

The challenge with writing smut, I find, is that since it isn't actually happening to me, it gets dreadfully boring analyzing each and every minute movement to describe it. I get sick to death of it long before it gets really good for the participants. Somewhere between "she bent her elbow and rotated her wrist to allow her fingers to curve around..." and "Are they still standing? Oh, they're not? When did that happen?" is a happy medium. I put some thought and effort into finding it, but considering how easy it isn't, I feel for the writers who don't manage to get there. One suspects that their tutelage in smut writing came from the cheapest of the cheap paperback bodice-rippers. Still, there are few things that take me as a reader out of a moment like thinking "oh come on, not even porn stars bend like that".