Remember, I am on the outside edge of opinion in this, because I think EVERYONE, male or female, looks better with a smidge of concealer, powder, groomed eyebrows, mascara, and tinted lip balm.
I'm just a little further toward the middle on this, but only just. Then again, I use my clothes as armor, and I also choose to Dress more often than many of my peers.
Then again, a clean white form-fitting t-shirt can be one of the sexiest articles of clothing around. It's all how it's worn.
eta: for most of my day-to-day life, I'm not interested in looking "better." The effort I put into looking good corresponds directly with how important I think it is for whatever audience I'll have, and usually, it's pretty minimal.
Also this. I've already set myself far enough apart from everyone I spend 40 hours a week with via hair and clothes - I don't feel that they're worth the effort of full make-up. Well, and I Don't Really Do day make-up. Haven't the talent. Easier to do full-on.
But mostly of Jilli - I just couldn't do something so difficult - to shop for, explain, and just put together.
Yes, this. Being Jilli is a vocation; I'm pleased to be part of the audience, and I could never, ever do it.
Most activities, for me, get weighed against "Would I rather be reading?" Most activities lose.
(The funny part of this whole conversation is that, with very few exceptions, NONE of us knew what any of the rest of us looked like/how we dressed/shaved/etc before getting to know each other. We're ALL inner life here. And the F2F atmospheres are festive enough that when we DO meet, we're not really presenting our day-to-day selves. We're presenting our stylish party selves.)
You all are making me want a makeover.
And I am sorry to add to the cultural pressure.
You don't. I mean, I know that you like me no matter how slobby I am, so I have no real pressure to be attractive *for you.* You'll still be around even when I forget to wear lipstick. It's cool.
But the rest of society, who doesn't know what a joy I am, what a geeky, demented sweetheart I am -- they don't know that Teppy in khakis is just as delectable as Teppy in cherries. Their loss.
Most activities, for me, get weighed against "Would I rather be reading?" Most activities lose.
Yep. I once broke up with a fella because I realized I'd rather be reading a book than doing much of anything with him.
And now I wonder why I'm NGA. Oh well. My library is fabulous.
Someday I am going to cough up the bucks to get a makeover done by this woman: [link]
Her book, "The Triumph of Individual Style", is amazing.
Someday I am going to cough up the bucks to get a makeover done by this woman: [link]
She advises looking at your wardrobe and then looking at how you decorate your home as an indicator of personal style.
I always dress in black. My apartment looks like a box of crayolas exploded.
I weigh clothing/presentation using a kick ass principle. If I can't kick ass in it - it'd better be kickass.
But mostly of Jilli - I just couldn't do something so difficult - to shop for, explain, and just put together.
Yes, this. Being Jilli is a vocation; I'm pleased to be part of the audience, and I could never, ever do it.
It's my hobby. It's What I Do. I am just as in awe of ita and her devotion to krav, or other people's devotion to what makes them happy.
(And, completely randomly, my Annoying!Writer just walked into my office and asked how much someone would have to pay me not to wear any black for one day. I blinked at him, and said "Probably around two or three hundred dollars. Enough for me to buy a new corset, and I'd wear red velvet for a day. No big deal.)
Her book, "The Triumph of Individual Style", is amazing.
I really need to read that.
