Jilli, you were primarily who I thought of when I saw that.

I've had such bad luck with BPAL's scents all turning to Play-Doh on me, I'm reluctant to try Villaness's perfume oils, although there are several scents I would like to try. Although the Play-Doh might be unique to BPAL, since I mix my own lavender/sandalwood oil mix, and I can wear it all day and it never turns to Play-Doh.

(I actually LOVE the way Play-Doh smells, but not ON me. Something that smells like grass is supposed to STAY that way, not turn to Play-Doh.)

I haven't tried any of Villainess' perfume oils, but their soaps and scrubs are delicious. (And the owner told me that I partially inspired the Bloodsugar soap, which is blood orange and cotton candy.)

re: Mark Watches--does it make me a bad human being to get tired of people being horrified and heartbroken that the show doesn't address all the social ills they personally abhor and it's just the most awful thing ever?

does it make me a bad human being to get tired of people being horrified and heartbroken that the show doesn't address all the social ills they personally abhor and it's just the most awful thing ever?

Around the time I left the freak-ass church, the plotline on Friends was Rachel being pregnant. And the girls in the FAC loved to watch Friends, but were appalled -- pearl-clutchingly so -- that Rachel wouldn't get married since she was pregnant, and the show would be SO much better if she got married!

And I was like, It's *fiction,* not a damn sermon! The plot serves the story, not an agenda, WTF?!?

Which is basically how I feel about BTVS not being a pro-Romani bandwagon. Don't give a crap. It's fiction. Shoehorning in A Message makes for really, really crappy fiction.

And I was like, It's *fiction,* not a damn sermon! The plot serves the story, not an agenda, WTF?!?

Can you believe you're not still a member, Steph?

Can you believe youre not still a member, Steph?

Heh. All this unmarried sex and reading novels is really ruining me.

I just don't get all the judgmental grievance about Buffy and Willow slut-shaming Cordelia (by calling her a skanky ho).

I don't endorse slut-shaming, but let the characters be imperfect. They've got many reasons to be angry and resentful towards Cordy. They were trying to say something hurtful.

And Xander keeps getting dragged over the coals for being a teenage horndog. The show does not endorse his pathetic attempts to exert control over who Buffy is seeing or when. Nor Willow. He's a complex character with a mix of strengths and weaknesses and that's what makes the story go round.

re: Mark Watches--does it make me a bad human being to get tired of people being horrified and heartbroken that the show doesn't address all the social ills they personally abhor and it's just the most awful thing ever?

If so, we are both bad humans. I was just conversing with a buddy about how annoyed we are by people who seem to be constantly looking for things to be outraged about.

I agree, Tep, although I thought that storyline, being the millionth iteration of Ross/Rachel, kinda sucked too.(on rewatch, I've kinda stopped 'shipping them...what happened to Emily seems kind of awful, now that I'm this age.) But I wouldn't have mentioned it to my pastor, if I had one. And, oh, shit, wait till poor Mark gets to the Key and Tara's brain...and they use the c-word quite a lot. Well, *Mark's* c-word. Not the Anglo-Saxon one.

There are times where the -isms are wedged deep in the text. I don't like it if the *work* is offensive, but not every show/book has to march in every Pride parade. It'd be great if it could change the world, but you can't ask everything of everything and actually get a lot of quality as a result.