First of all, I'd like to apologize if I've angered or offended anyone when they've sent me their work to beta. I honestly had no idea I was doing something that most writers find offensive.

And honestly, ask yourself this: If you send people a tense new scene between Jack and Anna, are you really asking for, or expecting, comments like "please learn the difference between "than" and "then""?

I want both levels of feedback at once. Yes, tell me what you think of the characters, whether the pacing is tight enough, etc., but for God's sake tell me if I've made any typos or misused a word or put too many long, convoluted sentences in a row! Because that's just embarrassing, and the sooner I fix those glitches, the happier I am.

To me, grammar and style are like edges in skating--it doesn't matter how good you are at everything else until they're in place, so you might as well get them right to start with. They're the fundamentals, the basics, the building blocks upon which everything else grows.

But apparently I'm writing backwards. I had no idea. (Not that I plan to change how I write. It works for me, and it would pain me to not care about grammar/style right from the beginning. I do my best to get it right in my rough drafts. But I'll try to take a different approach to critiquing, or at least be more clear about how I approach the process, lest I offend others.)

Allyson, speaking of beta-reading, did I put my foot in it the other day by offering you a completely unasked for suggestion in my email to you? After I sent it, I felt like such a big mouth. Plus, not sure I stressed how much I really liked what I read.

Susan, it's not backwards--it's just a different process. That's what makes writing an art, IMO.

There is (or should be) a difference between what you expect of your own writing process and what you expect of somebody else's.

I'm with you; I fix all the grammar and typos I can, because they itch me. I also am suspicious that somebody who can't handle grammar probably can't handle the big stuff.

However, when somebody asks me for an edit, I ask them what kind of edit they want. And editing should go top-down; it is far more important to know that Character A has no function in the story than to know that you're ending too many sentences with prepositions.

I guess it never occured to me that beta was ever about proofreading.

To me, it isn't, especially in fiction. But even in non-fiction, that isn't ever what I'm looking for.

Similarly, is it possible for " a long minute" to pass, since all minutes are, really, exactly the same length?

You know, while I can see how that might be useful, I think my first reaction would be to grit my teeth. My second reaction would be to write said editor off as nonintuitive. Which would potentially lose me a good editor...

is it possible for " a long minute" to pass, since all minutes are, really, exactly the same length?

The minutes in the ER waiting room are much, much longer than the minutes lounging in bed next to the person you love.

Allyson, speaking of beta-reading, did I put my foot in it the other day by offering you a completely unasked for suggestion in my email to you? After I sent it, I felt like such a big mouth. Plus, not sure I stressed how much I really liked what I read.

Actually, I would have liked more suggestions/criticism! I was just feeling kind of awkward. I needed you to read it for permission, so I felt like I was forcing stuff on you.

Speaking of, I need to send to ita and Burrell, as well. But Burrell, she's a little busy, methinks.

Send me as much as you want, Allyson! Maybe I can read it and then we can grab a bite together to discuss? That way I get the fun of reading AND I get to see you too!

Susan, it's not backwards--it's just a different process. That's what makes writing an art, IMO.

See my edit--I'm not planning to change my process for my own writing. I just had no idea that it was unhelpful and perhaps even offensive to others, because I didn't know it was unusual.

Send me as much as you want, Allyson! Maybe I can read it and then we can grab a bite together to discuss? That way I get the fun of reading AND I get to see you too!

Whoooot!!! That would be grrrreat!

I just had no idea that it was unhelpful and perhaps even offensive to others, because I didn't know it was unusual.

I wasn't offended, Susan. I just thought you didn't like my stuff and did what you could to help.