I was defining how *I* think of things. Not how things *should* be defined. People labeled me rude for linking something, and calling Nilly "Nilly". That's fine - I don't care, that's their opinion of how they persceive something (most things in life are subjective).

I don't know how many caught this, also, but there was an advert placed by fans in the Daily Variety:

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Kat, please don't speak for me.

People labeled me rude for linking something, and calling Nilly "Nilly". That's fine - I don't care, that's their opinion of how they persceive something (most things in life are subjective).

It's ironic that I'm doing this, but if you stop coming across as if you're dictating how others should behave/react, you may find yourself being dogpiled less.

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Oh, I'm not, SailAweigh. I am speaking for myself.

But I am also observing how many people felt compelled to say something about being upset.

Kat, please don't speak for me.

Where did she?

How am I dicating how others should behave/react, thegrommit?

ita, Kat said.

And it wasn't just me that felt that way.

I'm sorry, but this is an ambiguous enough statement to me, I did not know who was included in it. I just wanted to make sure that Kat was aware I was not one of them.

How am I dicating how others should behave/react, thegrommit?

The multiple instances of "if you post it, it's fair game" and the commentary about nicknames are two examples. In both cases you've staked out a position, then gone "I don't care" when called on it.

But then, that's just my "perception".

I don't see it as an ambiguous statement at all. It's clear that Kat feeels some people felt like she did (and I read reactions the same way), but that she wasn't going to speak for everyone.

I read your response like you were challenging her statement -- but I see now that you're not. Just clarifying your reaction to Kevin. Doesn't affect what she said.

SailAweigh, I rarely interact with you and would never assume to speak for you either. Nor did I say, "I'm speaking for anyone/everyone/just X, Y, Z people."

I took what I observed; that many people were riled up by things that Kevin wrote. If you need me to, I can go through and cite all the posts that do that, because I have a paper to write and am happy to procrastinate. But, there's little point. Because when people call something a kerfuffle, it demonstartes that there were other people who felt upset, bothered and offended.

ETA whatever. Don't care anymore.