I miss you guys.

Aw, {{{Bev}}} I miss you too! That was a great weekend.

have you had other reviews prior to this one that were more favorable?

My first boss was very kind, personally, but business-wise didn't have what it took to be a manager. My review from him was glowing with praise. My current boss is not very kind, duh, and is the biggest jackass manager I've met so far. Sure, our numbers have increased, but not due to anything he's done. His review, above, only covers the last 5 months of 2004.

To give you an idea of how big a jackass, if you couldn't tell already, he told me when he first got hired on that many people don't understand what "the boss" does in his office and they assume he plays games. He was implying that he doesn't play games. Well, almost every single time I need to go to his office for something he is playing games on his palm pilot. Either that or he's socializing with the other manager he hired (who happens to be a good friend).

I miss you guys.

Awww, come back. We're not out of wine yet.

that's a very strange performance review. Is there a human resources person you can talk to about it?

I'm sure there is but I'm not even sure I want to say anything to anyone in the company because I'm almost positive that it will be documented and get back to my boss. I hoping that by the end of April I'll have a new job closer to my family (which will also include me moving). I just want to wait it out for a few more months because I still have to pay my bills, even if that means putting up with shit like this.

I would in a heartbeat, had I the wherewithall and the excuse, my dear Mr. Smay.

First, (((beathen))). The whole situation sucks.

My take on a few of your boss's comments:

Specifically, several times I have given her a specific and important task to complete. Unless I asked her about the task, I never knoew what was going on and did not know whether it had been completed or not. [Would you like me to hold your hand? If he wanted a status he should have just asked. And can I say, vague much?]

What he's saying is that yes, he does want you to check in with him every few days, without his checking up. Bosses vary on that, but it's pretty clear that his expectation is different from what you're doing.

This is an easy thing to work on -- just check in every Wednesday and Friday.

Also, what this:

Out of everyone in the office, I have been there the longest.

and this:

I feel we have done her a disservice by hiring her into this position without the required professionalism, judgement and maturity.

Together suggest to me is that you were hired by people with one expectation, and no doubt are meeting it, but the new structure has a different expectation. This is not unfixable, but it is A Problem. Looking for another job is probably the best thing you can do, unfortunately.

What he's saying is that yes, he does want you to check in with him every few days, without his checking up.

He never indicated this to me before. I have no problem giving him updates but he has to let me know. I can't read his mind.

(Most of these posts about my boss were typed in frustration over the review, so take that into consideration because you're only seeing one side of the story.)

ah, yes, the mindreading job requirement. I wish they'd put that on the list of skills needed.

ah, yes, the mindreading job requirement. I wish they'd put that on the list of skills needed.

Don't forget omniscient. Everyone seems to think I know the answer to everything.

cereal.

Sigh. Tom's annoyed at me. We've both not been drinking for a few weeks now, but tonight I went to a hotel showcase thingie for area event planners, and they had Veuve Cliquot at the bar - for free - as well as a gorgeous Chablis.

The reason I decided to stop drinking was that I was drifting away from being able to have fun without drinking in a social situation, and I wanted to go through social situations for a couple months, at least, just to make sure I could separate the fun and the drinking.

Which I firmly believe I still did tonight. I savored a glass of Veuve (yum!) when I arrived, had a bunch of yummy food, switched to sparkling water and cranberry juice with lime (yum!) for a while, ate dessert, drank a nice cup of coffee, chilled out all full, and then a couple hours after the champagne, I had a glass of the Chablis while watching the bellydancer, and it was so lovely (the wine *and* the bellydancer). I savored that for a while, and had a glass or two of nice refreshing water (definitely needed after so much rich food).

It wasn't about the booze or the "social lubricants". I'd eaten so much food, I really felt no effect whatsoever from the alcohol. It was about the tastes. But when I try explaining that, I can see Tom thinking I'm just making excuses to cover up my precious precious drinking. (which... no. If I'd wanted to do that, I wouldn't have told him in the first place)

I hate, that for the rest of my life, every decision to drink or not drink will be analyzed and reasoned, and allowed or disallowed. I wish that wine (especially champagne and chablis) and microbrew beers and single malt whiskeys weren't so delicious.