And I'm sorry the ICU staff are being such asshats. I don't see why the hell she can't live there if she wants to.

Well, I can kind of understand, because honestly? She'll be better off not *constantly* being there. And I'm (once again) extremely impressed with a couple of my close friends, because they've got a spreadsheet set up on a website to organize who will be with her, who is bringing food on which days, which people are 'on call' at what times. I just wish there was more I could do right now.

Much -ma for your friend, Jilli. Much much -ma. And hugs for you and his wife.

A bunch of the women bought gift cards for her husband and daughter, for take out places that serve food-food (not fast food) and restaurants between their house and the hospital, so that they could stop for convenience, and not have to worry about the all the money spent. I don't know if that's something you could do for your friend.

That is a very good idea, and I will check with the Organizing Duo to see if that is something that can be done.

Jilli, much ~ma for your friend. She must be so scared right now.

Is anyone around who can pester the hospital about giving her a place to rest that isn't the ICU but still in or very near the hospital? It seems like they'd have an alternative for her so she can be there at a moment's notice if something happens.

Cashmere, any more news on your mom?

I'm so sorry to hear that, Jilli.

pester the hospital about giving her a place to rest that isn't the ICU but still in or very near the hospital?

It's possible the hospital even has some sort of hostel arrangement nearby. I know the main hospital in Madison has one right across the street. We used it when my brother was in the hospital with cancer. That way one person could stay with Mike for a while, while the other crashed in the room. It was either very cheap or even free, I don't remember as my parents paid for it if anyone did.

If she's not too far away from the hospital, she could probably use a night at home, even if it is spent dreading the phone's ring.

If she's not too far away from the hospital, she could probably use a night at home, even if it is spent dreading the phone's ring.

Yep. And from what I remember, her home isn't too far from the hospital.

she cannot live in the waiting room, no matter how much she wants to

Excuse me? The only thing they ever told me was I couldn't live in a corner of the actual hospital room itself. Of course, granted, that would have been bad for me, but I'd have done it.

Gods. I don't know which is worse, being at home and fretting and feeling your heart clench at every phone call or being in the waiting room and watching the doors and tensing every time a member of staff came out and glanced your way.