I'm with you, vw. I have been trying to think of a soothing, logical middle of the road post this morning, and I have come up with nothing. The long and short of it is that I am afraid there is no way to satisfy the desire of some to have closure with the desire of others to think the best of people. And as those aren't really opposing desires, I think it is hard to talk people who are of one way of thinking into the other way.

Whatever it is, just say it, vw.

Oh, no. That *was* my concern, Cindy.

vw honey, I don't think so. We've been through those wars before, and I think we know where the land mines are this time. We've also been exceptionally polite to each other, backed off and let the other person say their piece, and agreed to disagree. I think it's going to be fine, as long as we remember to play nice.

I agree with Beverly. Disagreement is not the end of a relationship. In this case, I see people stating their case while really listening to each other and giving each other room. It's an admirable thing.

I will say that the more live and let live types among us are not going to be able to talk the need-resolution types into dropping this. But as long as things are handled without ferocity and a need to punish, merely a fact-finding mission, I think most of the accepting folks can live with that. I can, anyway. I hope Trudy and anybody else who'd rather we not uncover anything unpleasant will be able to accept it, too.

Ok.

Just to clarify, I wasn't feeling all kerfuffly and stuff. I'm just scared. People that I care about are on both sides of this fence, and I don't want the community to lose any of them.

That's all. So, thank you for calming that.

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I will say that the more live and let live types among us are not going to be able to talk the need-resolution types into dropping this. But as long as things are handled without ferocity and a need to punish, merely a fact-finding mission, I think most of the accepting folks can live with that. I can, anyway. I hope Trudy and anybody else who'd rather we not uncover anything unpleasant will be able to accept it, too.

I am glad to hear you say that Beverly. My experience with the preferential voting discussion was life-altering-- or at least board altering for me, so conflict-avoidant me can blow things out of proportion.

I think we are all ok here, vw. We may have a variety of opinion on this, but I don't see anyone suggesting another's feelings are wrong.