A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.
Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych
Okay, so then why did you, Hec?
Because ita seemed interested in how she was being perceived different than how she perceived herself.
No, it helped me. I know it's not just Sean that feels hurt, and Nutty squirmy. This I hadn't realised, and is valuable information for me.
Also, since I particularly value her discussion style I wanted to note that. Though on re-read, if I were ita I might be tempted to say, "Thanks so much for your defense which included the image of me callously poking a finger into somebody's wound." I don't know - it made sense to me at the time.
I'd totally win the argument though, wouldn't I?
we aren't arguing, nice lady. What you would win is the special prize of FIREMEN!!! woohoo.
Does that help clear things up?
Actually, it does. I rarely hang out at Bureaucracy, so knowing it's often in turmoil helps immensely, as does this:
Lots of people jumped down Sean's throat in Natter and demanded he apologize. All people did to Allyson was disagree with her. Nobody's demanding she apologize.
Although I disagree with
Not what happened. Sean screamed obscenities at ita, ita responded admirably.
There were six whole posts and seven minutes between the Sean and ita posts, and I think that's a lot of time. But that's just my opinion, and I can accept that we don't agree on it.
Polgara, I also think maybe who is being seen as being piled on depends on the reader's perspective, and how close they are to each of the people involved. Obviously, you are closer to ita and Allyson than to Sean, so you feel more strongly about posts directed to them, which is how it should be.
This also makes perfect sense to me, and I should've taken it into account. I did get kinda riled up and defensive on ita and Allyson's part, and it is easier for me to understand Allyson's voice vs. Sean's.
We need a new Bitch thread.
The consensus seems to be "A Whole Different Vibe."
Other subject entirely for a moment: may we have a new Bitches, please?
There were six whole posts and seven minutes between the Sean and ita posts, and I think that's a lot of time.
Polgara, I think in retrospect most folks are thinking that was too much time. What happened in part (I think) was a certain amount of deference towards ita - to not fight her battles for her - that short circuited what would normally have been a quick response to Sean.
Just for the record, I adore arguing with ita, because she keeps me honest. I vehemently disagree with her on some issues, but she demands I reason carefully and provide facts.
Shouldn't Spikes Bitch 18 be plural?
I don't see anything wrong with people being "piled on" when they are wrong, sorry. Sometimes someone says something offensive to one person, sometimes someone says something offensive to the whole community. The only way to tell which is for people to say so. I know this looks like piling on, but if we are such delicate flowers that we can't handle five or ten people typing "You're wrong," or "You're out of line," we should really think much much longer before hitting "Post message." And this is true of my best friend and my worst enemy.
