A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.
Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych
Oh. My. God.
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Sean, you're acting incredibly immature, and it's making it increasingly difficult to take your side. ita was not attacking you. You attacked her. You've apologized, now get over it.
ita, when you poke people, it hurts. You're a very good debater, and arguing with you is the easiest way I know to make myself feel worthless and stupid, even knowing full well that that's not your intention. But you could probably stand to be a little more aware of people's boundaries.
Allyson, unless you have something truly constructive to say, back the hell off. Peppering your posts with cheap shots at Sean only makes you look petty and mean, and helps nothing.
But you could probably stand to be a little more aware of people's boundaries.
Can you help me out and tell me when they've been breached?
Jess, I'm not sure that post helped anything.
Look, can we all agree to just back away for a little while?
No, it helped me. I know it's not just Sean that feels hurt, and Nutty squirmy. This I hadn't realised, and is valuable information for me.
I squirm when I am tickled, too.
Actually squirm is just a fun word.
No, it helped me. I know it's not just Sean that feels hurt, and Nutty squirmy. This I hadn't realised, and is valuable information for me.
That's grace. I hope I'm half so thoughtful my (knock on wood don't let it be) next kerfuffle.
Can you help me out and tell me when they've been breached?
ita, I hear this as "when, in the moment, one of those boundaries is crossed, can you point it out so that I have a clear sense of what people are talking about when they feel hurt or 'poked'?"
Or something to that effect.
If I'm interpreting it correctly, this is a legitimate request that I've seen you make several times, without much response.
I have only had the kind of reaction to your posting (with me) that inspired me to walk away once. If it should ever come up again, I'd be glad to be an adult and tell you what sparks my reaction.
Can you help me out and tell me when they've been breached?
I can only speak for myself, and my skin's gotten pretty thick. But yes, and I think this kind of communication is something the entire community could benefit from.
this kind of communication is something the entire community could benefit from.
At the risk of coming over all kumbaya, can I just say A-men.
No need to flog the 'print is so easily misinterpreted' dead horse, but a general consensus would be nice around "look, there are no serial killers here that we know of, so if something climbs your tree? Assume it isn't about your worth as a person".
Actually, that consensus exists, for the most part. So, I guess the converse nice thing would be "no serial killers here, so if someone goes batshit? Assume it's a bad day and not about your worth as a person."
(So not about your reaction ita. I saw no self-worth guessing there, of course.)
