it is always nice to know someone is paying attention to someone other than themselves. For me, this is true for anyone, male, female, romantic interest or otherwise.

The number of times I've had to either deal with feeling like I'm holding up the door-opener, or sprint to make sure I don't, I don't see an automatic upside.

If they're near and I'm going to have difficulty with the door -- much appreciated. As is checking to make sure the timing of not holding it open for me doesn't mean it's shutting right in my face.

Yep, ita, I was assuming that you were walking with, or near someone. I don't see the point if someone is far enough away that the door won't hit them, unless their hands are full.

If you're that close to someone, you pretty much have to keep holding it open, because the alternative turns to active rudeness.

If, however, you make a point of getting to the door first Every Single Time when you're walking with me, I also find it annoying. If you're there first, please keep it open. If you're not, I will do the same.

It's all powdered wigs and carriages, suddenly. What up.

This was my objection. You don't need to be in a powdered wig or a carriage to have been raised to believe that you open doors for women. I wasn't raised that way. I'm an equal-opportunity door opener/holder, but there are actual living people who live/d like this. They didn't wear dinosaur skins with their wigs and carriages. SMG and FPJ's behaviour towards each other is not something from the 17th century, that's where your exaggeration is "big lie".

Hubby was well-trained to open doors for women. He gets very annoyed when I try to hold the door for him, even when he's on crutches, but sometimes he just has to let me do it for him. He prefers to try to open the door for me even when he's on crutches, and I've learned to find a reason to check my purse for something if I outdistance him to the door so he can open it. It's a combination of "I'm not that crippled up, dammit" and "I'm supposed to open that door, dammit." Yeah, there's a lot of pigheadedness involved. Still, I've been with him for 20 years, I can cut him a few breaks.

How do you handle airlock-style double doors? If I'm first through the first door I usually hold the second door. Then people look at me funny.

How do you handle airlock-style double doors?

With Hubby, I wait for him to open the second one. Unless he's on crutches, then I'll pull the door open so he can at least hold it. The male ego can be a fragile thing.

My 7 year old is a door opening gentleman. He gets upset if his sister or I get to a door before he does. But he has yet to figure out how to gracefully stop so that he does not become the door man for the next 100 people going through the door.

See, how it works is the driver unlocks your door, lets you in, and you then lean across to unlock his or her door.

I'm too tired to 'xplain, but this was used to judge the worth of dates, back in the day.

See, how it works is the driver unlocks your door, lets you in, and you then lean across to unlock his or her door.

My mom taught me this when I was a teenager. Always unlock and open the car door. You don't have to close her in like you are the keeper of the door, as some find it uncomfortable. But if you do, make sure any jacket or dress is inside, please.

She also pointed out that unlocking your passenger's door first is always polite, male or female.

I haven't asked her since then about electric locks and remote devices.

Sadly I have not had much of a need for girlfriend car etiquette in my life. I have to brush up and check out the political correctness before I go to Arizona...someday.