This entire thing is absolfuckinglutely ridiculous. By all means, let's bend over backwards for a poster who has made NO meaningful contribution for this community except to cause drama and problems. We'll just let her walk up one side and down another. And then we can turn around and flog someone who has been a valued member of this community because she won't conform her thoughts on a single subject to fit others' beliefs on what's acceptable.

I agree totally.

Okay Steph, I get it. You think it's bullshit. But I'm not asking for a retroactive warning. I honestly feel her posts today crossed the line.

Really? Then can you clarify this, from post #80:

"because a) she violated CS, seemingly apologized for it, and now admits that her violation was intentional and remains unapologetic for that violation. I don't care if it was months ago"

Sounds retroactive to me.

Posting style, Wolfram. General posting style. The desire to make everything about her by disrupting the flow of conversation in at least two active threads here and at least one on PF. Entering threads and spamming them. Calling the Buffistas vengeful somethings.

The last bit. Those are from today.

But if you want chapter and verse and citations, you'll have to look it up on your own.

If you don't think she causes community turmoil, look back on the 500+ posts here and in the previous thread. And the fact that you yourself stated that she drives you crazy.

I'm tired of having to defend myself for having asked that she be warned. I'm tired of having to defend myself to you because she's already been warned. It happened. The end.

But yet, somehow I'm still the person in the wrong.

I'm so in agreement with everything askye has said with not understanding how Zoe merits protection and special treatment and the people who are saying, "Listen, this is a bad situation for the community" need to be the ones defending themselves. To me, it's a big "FUCK YOU" because it denotes a remarkable lack of respect for our experiences.

And frankly, you can coat your post in nice sugary words ("I don't mean to be snippy") but it rankles, offends and feels like a slap in the face just the same.

But if either one violates CS, warn 'em. Equal treatment.

That's not equal treatment. That's the same concept as those zero-tolerance rules that get kids suspended for bringing Tylenol to school. We're not enforcing laws here, we're running a board. Zoe has been disrupting it. Allyson isn't.

See, actually, Wolfram, the first step is for you to ask for an apology in-thread. But what is it you want an apology for? Because all you can ask for is an apology for her actions. Which she DID apologize for, MONTHS ago.

I feel that you are WAY out of line here.

But if either one violates CS, warn 'em. Equal treatment.

Hm. Because, well, the thing is, people are warned for pervasive behavior over time. We weigh their contributions. So, no, i don't think everyone who sets foot on this board is created equal, just because they have a net connection and the ability to type. I asked to be treated fairly, not equally. Zoe, Schmoker and I, we ain't equals.

Okay, Kat said what I wanted to, but nicer, and without the swearing.

Because it feels to me like you've been pushing and pushing to mold this board into something it never was, and you've been stomping on the feelings of long-term posters left and right for the sakes of a handful of asswads.

Thank you Plei.

I know we try to avoid using "old-timers" and "newbies." But frankly, it pisses me off when people who are new come in and try to change our policy.

Equal treatment.

Bullshit. This is not equal treatment. Did you even read the conversation that led to all this? We were discussing Zoe and every other post was referencing the statement that Allyson made before and APOLOGIZED for. Allyson came and gave further clarification and it turned into a shitstorm.

Allyson hasn't violated our CS. Zoe, on the other hand, with her serial posts of devoid of content and filled with nothing but incoherent blather has violated our CS. It's called "consistent demon-like behavior" and that fits her to a "t".

I find it also noteworthy that Allyson came here to address the issue when it arose, even though she didn't have to because she'd already apologized for it. Meanwhile, Zoe is still MIA. That, in and of itself, shows me how vastly different these two situations are.

"because a) she violated CS, seemingly apologized for it, and now admits that her violation was intentional and remains unapologetic for that violation. I don't care if it was months ago"

Sounds retroactive to me.

Read the part that starts "now admits...remains unapologetic..." But, look, I'm not going to argue the point. I think Allyson merits a warning for today's behavior. I don't want to see her suspended or banned, ever. YOMV. I'm not looking for ten people to back me up, in fact, I'm not looking for anyone to back me up. I've said my piece which I feel needed to be said.

No offense meant to Allyson, Steph, bitterchick, Plei or anyone else in that corner. I hope you let me play with you again. I'm going to sleep now.

but I also think that you know you've earned it.

Actually, Allyson's breech of community standards has been pointed out to her (both at the time of the offence and during this discussion) and she has agreed to moderate her behaviour in future.

In affect a warning, as this board seem to consider the process, has been unofficially given, Allyson has discussed it and agreed to abide by the group consensus.

At this point you're just trying to moderate her thoughts, beliefs and opinions.

And erm.. that's just plain not on. On any board.

Equal treatment. That's what it's always been about.

I thought it was about addressing problems. I see Allyson in here addressing a problem people have. I can't say the same for Zoe.

You know what that tells me? That Allyson cares enough about this community to try to come to some kind of understanding or agreement. Zoe? Not so much.