The social capital concept-- and I wasn't a big fan of the term first, either-- is not used to justify rude behavior, which is what you're suggesting, Java. I think what you're seeing is that it's often used to excuse it. In other words, yes, you've been rude, but we overlook it because so far, it's not particularly indicative of most of your experience; plus, you've proved that you're not ruining everyone's experience daily. And I'm OK with that. This is a clique. It's not a democracy.
And you're sure this isn't just some fanboy thing? 'Cause I've fought more than a couple pimply, overweight vamps that called themselves Lestat.
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bon bon - Apr 01, 2004 4:18:23 am PST #8734 of 10005
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
Steph L. - Apr 01, 2004 4:20:08 am PST #8735 of 10005
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
What Shawn said, w/r/t social capital. It exists in meatspace, so why on earth wouldn't it exist in an online community that has the level of friendships (and marrying each other, now!) that we have?
§ ita § - Apr 01, 2004 4:22:38 am PST #8736 of 10005
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I'd even go so far (and is why I'm synonym-happy on the topic) that "social capital" is used to describe a perfectly normal phenomenon. So whether I ever speak those words, there's public goodwill/understanding that carries weight AND it's something that can be gained or spent.
"Pecking order" doesn't inherently express the idea that I can move around in it. "Gazebo" might, if we work it right and start early.
It's not a democracy.
So true. The "citizen" analogy is often used, but ... so not a government here. It could never be.
JenP - Apr 01, 2004 4:23:40 am PST #8737 of 10005
I ike the slug line w/ etiquette sample.
Steph L. - Apr 01, 2004 4:24:02 am PST #8738 of 10005
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
"Pecking order" doesn't inherently express the idea that I can move around in it. "Gazebo" might, if we work it right and start early.
As in "Wow, when Lee picked up the dinner check for everyone, she added a whole new wing on her gazebo!"
msbelle - Apr 01, 2004 4:30:27 am PST #8739 of 10005
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
My gazebo brings all the boys to the yard.
billytea - Apr 01, 2004 4:31:22 am PST #8740 of 10005
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
My gazebo brings all the boys to the yard.
Where they attack your gazebo with their longswords?
Rafmun - Apr 01, 2004 4:47:15 am PST #8741 of 10005
I'm made of felt and my....hey, who's hand is that?
The social capital concept...often used to excuse rude behaviour. ...This is a clique.
If the above is accepted SOP, should it be noted in Ettiquette?
Given the above, the below proved misleading, at least to me:
The Buffistas are an inclusive, welcoming, and flame-free community. ...If you make personal attacks or offensive posts, or try to start a fight, you will be shunned.
§ ita § - Apr 01, 2004 4:51:31 am PST #8742 of 10005
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
People have been rude to me, and because of a history (which is what builds social capital, naturally), I've a) not been offended, or b) just let it slide.
Guess who benefitted? The community.
Guess what else? Happens all the time, everywhere, and to codify that would be micro-detailing human nature. The etiquette document is not a sociology/psychology double major thesis.
Rafmun - Apr 01, 2004 5:08:16 am PST #8743 of 10005
I'm made of felt and my....hey, who's hand is that?
I apologize. [remainder of post deleted b/c Steph found it rude and flame baity]