Good on you, Beverly, for having the courage to speak your mind.

The discussion stopped on the Deathmatch posts because Elena withdrew them. After that it was moot, no? There was no decision to stop them or to change Press or Beep Me. It wasn't taken to a vote, and Elena could start posting back there again if she wanted. There's no rule against it, and the general consensus was that people were fine with the way Press and Beep Me were being used.

Here's how I saw the deathmatch posts in Press issue: I liked them. Because I'm really really fucking lazy. I'm subscribed to Press, but not to Quotable, so I liked having a handy-dandy link in my face when a vote was going on. However, it is not a hardship to either subscribe to Quotable, or just check out the front page of b.org every once in a while. If there are new posts in Quotable, there's probably a deathmatch on. If not, no big -- I've already committed to wasting time deathmatching, so I don't mind seeing some non-deathmatch discussion. Either way, it's really not a huge deal to me. I thought the anti-post-in-Press people were overreacting, frankly, but I myself did not care enough to advocate either way.

Well, a lot of the time it's more a matter of "why would I go there if it's not fun anymore?". It's a loss of appeal rather than a single act.

Though, I feel safe in saying Jen K, who'd been here long and lovingly, left after a nasty exchange. True, her life had gotten very busy at that time-- but had this place been a haven rather than a burden we wouldn't have lost her.

Boards change. Just like societies change. Whether for good or bad depends on an individual's point of view. It's ridiculous to suggest that this board can remain static and still please everyone.

We'll lose good people due to other issues--real life issues, time-suck, etc.

And I don't see "denial" in any of these exchanges. I do, however, feel like I'm being McCarthied with a statement like this:

"Or perhaps it is because a few very prolific and increasingly agressive posters have succeeded in marginalizing some very long-term members..."

Especially without verification by the disaffected posters.

Honestly, I got the impression that if it had been taken to a vote, that there was enough popular support for deathmatch notices to continue in Press.

However, I'm glad it didn't go to a vote because I don't like micromanaging the board's functions.

Thanks for bringing that up, Beverly. I wasn't thrilled with the outcome of that conversation either.

</dead-horse beating.>

Plei added her support to Steph, and at that point the outcome became pretty much a foregone conclusion.

Things aren't a foregone conclusion just because I support them or want them, or else we'd still have a separate Due South thread. And probably still have Spoilers Lite. And all threads would talk about Batman all the time. And I'd still feel comfortable in Bitches, or still hang in the fic thread.

My reasons for wanting some change in how the DM posts were made were rooted in previous complaints WRT clutter in Press and Beep Me from people in the lifestyle known as dark grey, and Shawn stated the reasons far better than I ever could.

But I can't help what I feel.

Nor should you apologize for it, and I'm genuinely glad you spoke up.

Even though I was on the opposite side in the posting press announcements discussion, I'd much rather see a specific case where I was an (admittedly unnamed in your post, but certainly in the discussion) bad guy, than just "some people are bad, and I'm not going to name names, but I'm thinking of YOU", which is where this discussion has frankly been heading today. And *that* is a tone I really don't like.

Thanks, Beverly, for having the courage to post.

(And comments on the announcements posting really belong in a separate post. I'm not trying to dismiss the subject, ftr.)

It doesn't make tham amy less worthy members of the board, or their concerns any less valuable, just because they're not brawlers. I'm one of them. And I'm shaking all over and trying to decide whether or not to hit "post." I do not want to stir a shitstorm, and I don't want to alienate anyone. But I can't help what I feel.

Thank you so much Beverly. Yes, this is one of the instances I had in mind when posting my original perspective.