Persons D-ZZ: You know, Person A said that thing to Person B that was completely inappropriate. I'm still offended by that.

Which, FWIW, bugs me worse than any freaking comments that may or may not have offended.

Of course, I wasn't offended in the first place. So sue me.

I'm going to hazard a guess and say that you may want Allyson to regret she said what she said, but that you don't want her to lie to you, right?

Are you really insistent that she tells you an untruth every time it's brought up?

Or do you want to force her to change her mind?

"I" was trying to avoiding bringing a personal pronoun into it, actually. In general, I think these kinds of conversations Do Not Help. But since you asked, I'll answer. I think the optimal solution would be for it not to have been brought up a month or whatever later, because it's over and done with. Given that it's been brought up, I don't have a good solution. My emotional reaction is fairly close to Nutty's, but I think picking at it is going to do more harm than good.

If you want the optimal outcome in the Universe Of Katie, then Allyson regrets intentionally attacking Zoe and undergoes a miraculous change of heart, vowing never to do such a thing again. Zoe then spontaneously finds herself some other board to enjoy, and my allergies mysteriously disappear so that I can get a kitten. I do not believe that any of these outcomes can be reached through online discussion, though, which is why I attempted a translation in the hopes of ending it.

The use of subhuman: I didn't like it. It set off an alarm and offended me.

Berating Allyson for her lack of regret: I don't like it. It sets off an alarm and offends me.

Discussing it circularly: (guess what) I don't like it. It sets off an alarm and tires me.

If you want Allyson to be officially warned or reprimanded or bitchslapped, can you just say it? Because then we can work through that instead of doing the dance of accusation, innuendo and defense.

Personally, I don't want a censure of Allyson. I think that bringing it up NOW is not really helpful.

Ooh, that last message sounds snippy. I don't mean to sound snippy, I'm just being overly precise. Sorry.

In general, I think these kinds of conversations Do Not Help.

I think the optimal solution would be for it not to have been brought up a month or whatever later, because it's over and done with.

I think picking at it is going to do more harm than good.

I just thought these bits of Katie's post summed up most of my feelings.

Zoe drives me crazy. Annoying, but I have a high tolerance. But for this kind picking at old scabs, NSM.

If you want Allyson to be officially warned or reprimanded or bitchslapped, can you just say it? Because then we can work through that instead of doing the dance of accusation, innuendo and defense.

Yes, this.

I am sensing that this is What Is Wanted, yet Not Discussed.

And, I would really prefer it if someone would speak up, because it seems, and I could be reading more into this, that people would rather I pretend to feel something I don't so that it doesn't come to that.

I'd rather be treated fairly.

I'd like Allyson officially warned. Not because I don't like Allyson. But because a) she violated CS, seemingly apologized for it, and now admits that her violation was intentional and remains unapologetic for that violation. I don't care if it was months ago, or yesterday, today she took an unapologetic stance for her previous violation.

and b) the Zoe characterizations - subhuman? - extremely offensive. Merits a warning.

Besides IIRC, Allyson has asked already at least three times for someone to request that she be warned. So I'm going to do it.

I also want to point out to bitterchick that people have been bringing up month old Zoeisms too, like the Icky Gay thing. So either it's fair game, or it's not. And I'm not a Zoe defender, she annoys the shit out of me too, but I still don't understand what the recent kerfuffle is about. Is there a specific thing she said that someone can link to? Because if it's just a matter of her ignoring emails to come into Bureaucracy to defend herself, I don't think anyone has or should have the obligation to do that. To some people this board is downright frightening.

Finally, I want to wrod Fayjay, Micole and PaulJ, among others, for a lot of recent stuff, but I'm too tired to find it.

I'd like Allyson officially warned

Okay. Warn me.

I'd like Allyson officially warned. Not because I don't like Allyson. But because a) she violated CS, seemingly apologized for it, and now admits that her violation was intentional and remains unapologetic for that violation. I don't care if it was months ago, or yesterday, today she took an unapologetic stance for her previous violation.

Wow. I think that is TOTAL bullshit. To ask for a warning about something that happened *months* ago, that she *apologized* for???

Bullshit.

It sounds to me like you want a warning given because she won't apologize for her *intent*, even though she apologized for her *actions.*

I'll say it one more time: BULLSHIT.