Nilly, that's why I started the database. It's a way to contribute since I have no money. I promise, no toes stepped on. How about you manage it, and let me have a copy so that we have backup?

I'm glad to see we share the intention. I thought your idea was wonderful when I first saw it, and no matter what the surprise(s) may be, it's probably be very useful already.

How about you manage it, and let me have a copy so that we have backup?

Works for me.

I think a lot of people have gotten good out of it -- though, t narrowed eyes I don't recall your name in there.

And at some point, Elena, Plei, and Nilly should send me their lists of later Buffy, Angel, and Firefly quotes and ita should send me formatting instructions, that I might add some quotes to the generator.

I like the idea of a Buffista address database, but I'm a little... well... I'm not leary, but... I'd hate to see the Buffista Good Deed Backchannel become somewhat institutionalized. Right now, we have had many spontaneous acts of generosity and kindness, which I think is wonderful. And the serendipitousness is part of it--sometimes you hear about it, sometimes you get to participate in it, sometimes you just get surprised when you hear about it later.

What Burrell said.

I do feel a little sad when I miss out on the opportunity to give to someone, but the gift's not ever going to be from me, you know? It's from us.

I fear overhead, the impulse-killer.

but the gift's not ever going to be from me, you know? It's from us.

I think I see what you're saying.

The reason I thought this sort of thing could be good was because it's another way to let people become part of this 'us' - I was thinking more about relatively new posters, or posters who participate in only a few threads, or only occasionally - who are less likely to be in other people's e-mails addresses-books.

I really don't think it will take out the spontinaity.

The way I see it:

Most ideas for gifts of kindness started with one person emailing their address book. That may still happen for small community specific things, but for whole community things, or things that the organizer wants to be fully inclusive, they could now email Nilly or Deena for a full email list.

They could remove the secret giftees info and send out the email. It would appear the same to anyone receiving the email. What it would save is a few people feeling left out.

It seems that feeling left out is a fairly common thing on the boards, why not do something that would eleviate it a little?

I'm not saying don't do it. I'm just leery of it, is all.

How about you manage it, and let me have a copy so that we have backup?

Which also works in case we are surprising one of YOU!

As far as killing spontainaiety, I can see the concern... but I'm agreeing with msbelle. It's a bummer to feel left out and it can cause bad anti-cliquey feelings.