'Life of the Party'
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Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych
Like I said, I just wanted to propose that I think it would be kind (and in the spirit of the season) to say, "Glad to hear that you are feeling better. If you'd like to come back for a month and see how it goes...."
I'm really against this. She didn't ask to come back.
It reads to me that she might like to be asked back.
We disagree, that's no big deal. Neither of us had definitive knowledge, however.
I was among those in favor of taking Schmoker back too.
An opinion being unpopular doesn't make it unexpressable.
Trying to stay out of this, because this is just a giant kerfuffle I don't think we need, but what happens the next time she forgets to take her meds and she has another psychotic break all over the board?
Like many bi-polars, psychotics have a nasty tendacy to just stop taking their meds after a while.
An opinion being unpopular doesn't make it unexpressable.
I hope you didn't think I was saying that, Trudy. I am a big fan of unpopular opinion-expression, given how many I have had during my time here.
I guess what I'm trying to get at is that I wouldn't object to a policy that said that if we banned somene and they asked to come back, we could reinstate them after 12 months. (I don't think Zoe has even been gone for six.) But doing it case-by-case seems both unfair and overly complicated to me.
Trudy, this is I swear to God the last thing I'm gonna say on the topic: I do, in fact, have definitive knowledge. I have definitive knowledge that she did not ask to be reinstated. Therefore, the question of whether she should be reinstated is a moot one.
Michele, you thought it read as a good bye, I thought it read as a polite hint. Our having different perceptions is really not a problem.
I can see how it might be a hint, in a passive-aggressive "I lack the courage to ask directly, but won't you give me validation and make me the center of attention by asking me back?" way.
To which my answer would be a resounding "When Hell freezes over!"
I thought she might be being British about it-- but my knowledge of such is limited and based on Victorian childrens novels.
I think it's clear no one has asked to be reinstated. Whatever motivations may lie underneath are a) unknown and b) not our problem.