An opinion being unpopular doesn't make it unexpressable.

I hope you didn't think I was saying that, Trudy. I am a big fan of unpopular opinion-expression, given how many I have had during my time here.

I guess what I'm trying to get at is that I wouldn't object to a policy that said that if we banned somene and they asked to come back, we could reinstate them after 12 months. (I don't think Zoe has even been gone for six.) But doing it case-by-case seems both unfair and overly complicated to me.

Trudy, this is I swear to God the last thing I'm gonna say on the topic: I do, in fact, have definitive knowledge. I have definitive knowledge that she did not ask to be reinstated. Therefore, the question of whether she should be reinstated is a moot one.

Michele, you thought it read as a good bye, I thought it read as a polite hint. Our having different perceptions is really not a problem.

I can see how it might be a hint, in a passive-aggressive "I lack the courage to ask directly, but won't you give me validation and make me the center of attention by asking me back?" way.

To which my answer would be a resounding "When Hell freezes over!"

I thought she might be being British about it-- but my knowledge of such is limited and based on Victorian childrens novels.

I think it's clear no one has asked to be reinstated. Whatever motivations may lie underneath are a) unknown and b) not our problem.

I appreciated reading the note. Standing in the no response required corner.

I'm of the school of thought that until she can work up the nerve to come forward and ASK for reinstatement then it is a non-issue. If she can only hint around at it, then she's not ready to come to terms with the destruction that she caused here, whether it be the results of a episode or not. Yes, I do deal with this stuff, a roommate of mine is bipolar, going off meds is not fun, we have a incident with a dead pet to prove it.

I appreciate that Zoe has apologized for her behavior earlier this year. I appreciate that she did this, also, without apparent ulterior motive, that is, without requesting to be taken back on the board.

I do not think we should ask her back. Her behavior *was* extremely disruptive and despite the apology I do not feel confident that the disruption would not recur.

I, too, appreciate the apology/explanation. I wish her good health and much happiness. She didn't ask to come back. If/when she does, it could be discussed. I personally doubt such a request would be granted.

(FTR, I was an active advocate for Zoe at the time)