...burning baby fish swimming all round your head.

Drusilla ,'Conversations with Dead People'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


JenP - Sep 18, 2025 2:29:05 pm PDT #9342 of 10282

Aw, that's great, sj, enjoy!

I'm glad you had some good times in among all the anxious moments and your stepmother's death, Trudy. That was a hell of... just one week? Geez.

Writing workshops sound like fun, erika. Good present!


erikaj - Sep 18, 2025 2:32:10 pm PDT #9343 of 10282
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

That does sound good, Trudy. It's totally weird that Victor and I have been friends for so long and never met physically. I'd say he should come here, but that's not really a nice thing to do. Much as I might like it. Cool about your old friend, sj.


Laura - Sep 18, 2025 3:50:21 pm PDT #9344 of 10282
Our wings are not tired.

My childhood BFF, T, is going to be in town this weekend!

Have a wonderful visit!


Steph L. - Sep 18, 2025 4:00:52 pm PDT #9345 of 10282
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Trudy, that is one hell of a week, birthday or no.


erikaj - Sep 18, 2025 4:30:19 pm PDT #9346 of 10282
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

yeah, damn. lots of ups and downs, a lot, period. Had lunch with my parents and didn't make the news-- that's something.


-t - Sep 18, 2025 4:53:57 pm PDT #9347 of 10282
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Not making the news is good. Perhaps more so now than usual


erikaj - Sep 18, 2025 4:55:41 pm PDT #9348 of 10282
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

yeah...well, you want to do it for the right reasons.


brenda m - Sep 18, 2025 6:35:54 pm PDT #9349 of 10282
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Oh wow Trudy.

Things around here are odd. No National Guard thank dog, for so many reasons. But a lot of ICE sightings including one incident where someone was killed.

The community is pulling together - lots of networks to share sightings. Many of us have Mexican flag magnets on our cars to deflect and support, especially with all the Mexican independence celebrations this past week. As usual they’re targeting working people and working class neighborhoods. Including apparently trolling for beat up work trucks and surveilling them to see who appears. A neighborhood tow truck company is offering to relocate people’s work trucks for free if they are have concerns about going back to it at the end of the work day.

This timeline fucking sucks.


lisah - Sep 19, 2025 5:06:43 am PDT #9350 of 10282
Punishingly Intricate

Jesus, Brenda, it really does


Steph L. - Sep 19, 2025 8:05:49 am PDT #9351 of 10282
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

This timeline fucking sucks.

It both sucks and blows.

Week 2 of Tim's cancer treatment is done; 5 weeks to go! Earlier this week he noticed that food is starting to taste weird, so side effects are starting to creep in. He can still eat normally, which is great, so he's eating as healthy as he can and also still trying to add some pounds. He does have really minor nausea from the chemo that is easily controlled with ginger candy and/or ginger chews. The radiation oncologist said that the radiation would make Tim's neck look sunburned, and that happened this week. It's not painful, and Tim has topical stuff to use for that, so it's under control.

We're hoping Tim gets at least one more good week of being able to eat normally — the radiation oncologist said week 2 or 3 is when different side effects (sores in his mouth and/or throat, difficulty swallowing) might make it harder to eat normally. That said, since day 1 he's been doing the PT exercises for his swallowing muscles/throat/mouth in general; that doesn't mean he'll avoid all side effects, but it should definitely help. He also uses 2 different products that are meant to prevent/delay/minimize mouth sores — one is a supplemental drink that he takes 2 times a day, and the other is a mixture of baking soda, salt, and water that he rinses his mouth with after meals and at bedtime.

Things still feel surreally normal most days, because he goes to work after radiation in the morning, and because he's still eating normally and exercising and puttering around the house like always. I'm trying to appreciate these days, because the side effects are definitely coming. But still: cancer-free by Halloween! And, as always, fuck cancer.