Book: I am a Shepherd. Folks like a man of God. Mal: No, they don't. Men of God make everyone feel guilty and judged.

'Safe'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Steph L. - Oct 21, 2024 11:39:57 am PDT #3036 of 4159
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Today is a momentous day in my personal history as I'm about to go see a therapist for the first time.

I'm sure it'll be helpful -- I'm glad you recognized the signs that therapy would be a good idea. (Welcome to the club.)


erikaj - Oct 21, 2024 12:02:27 pm PDT #3037 of 4159
Always Anti-fascist!

I've done it off and on. Support groups too.(It's been a long time since, actually, but it doesn't feel like it.) Hope it helps, Hec.


Laura - Oct 21, 2024 12:45:43 pm PDT #3038 of 4159
Our wings are not tired.

I now have several tabs open with various videos I need to watch. DH was privileged to live in multiple countries as a child, but I haven't traveled nearly enough. We both regret that we didn't give the boys a more international experience, but at least they lived in cities and went to school with various cultures. It was a badge of honor for Bobby's classmates to have the most bizarre combo of parent heritage.

Today is a momentous day in my personal history as I'm about to go see a therapist for the first time.

This is good to hear. Take care of yourself. This is just as important as diet and exercise, if not more so.

In hindsight, I know I should have done so after Stephen died, but a very negative experience while he was sick soured me on the notion. Of note is that I also had a very positive experience with another therapist during that time as well, but the bad one was super bad.


sj - Oct 21, 2024 1:18:44 pm PDT #3039 of 4159
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Good luck with the therapist, Hec.


erikaj - Oct 21, 2024 1:26:10 pm PDT #3040 of 4159
Always Anti-fascist!

chemistry is important at times like that, Laura.


dcp - Oct 21, 2024 1:39:02 pm PDT #3041 of 4159
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.

Are "mish kids" missionary kids?

Correct!

Came back to the States with a posh British accent that did not go over well....

When I would come back to Arkansas on summer vacations, I would get teased for "talking British." As best I could tell, it was for pronouncing my final "g"s and being careful of my grammar. It usually took me a week or so to relax into the surrounding Southern drawl.

My accent and dialect always seem to adapt pretty quickly to whatever is being spoken wherever I happen to be. My inner voice always reflects whatever I have been reading lately, and if I am not careful that will slip out into my spoken voice as well. That gets me some odd looks, sometimes.


Karl - Oct 21, 2024 4:34:44 pm PDT #3042 of 4159
I adore all you motherfuckers so much -- PMM.

Hec, in your post you refer to both "Austria" and "Australia" in terms of the size of Chongqing; those are very different figures, and Australia is actually bigger than the continental USA in terms of land area.

I am willing to believe that Chongqing is larger than Austria (which is only a quarter the size of Germany), but one city (even one that is non-continguously dispersed) larger than the Lower 48 is a bit of a stretch for me.


erikaj - Oct 21, 2024 6:29:15 pm PDT #3043 of 4159
Always Anti-fascist!

I thought that was just me moving slowly this morning...good catch.


DavidS - Oct 21, 2024 6:55:10 pm PDT #3044 of 4159
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

I was just cutting and pasting so we'll have to take that size discrepancy up with Wikipedia.

Further research shows that Szechuan food comes from Chongqing, and, of course, I've had that.

First therapy was good - she's very kind and empathetic. However, I'm a little worried about going down into some of the darker and twistier parts of my psyche with her. But I'll have another session with her next week and try to broach that.


Calli - Oct 22, 2024 7:19:59 am PDT #3045 of 4159
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

I’m glad the therapy started well, Hec.

My workplace added Michigan to the places from which some employees can work remotely. I’ve submitted my application. University HR grinds amazingly slowly, but I’d like to get myself up north by next spring, so I can help my sister after her knee surgery. She has so much she wants to be doing, with work, grandkids, getting their house ready for sale, etc., and mobility issues (and pain) are slowing her down.