Nothin'. I just wanted you to face me so she could get behind ya.

Mal ,'The Train Job'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Tom Scola - Aug 04, 2024 3:47:34 pm PDT #1935 of 3451
Mr. Scola’s wardrobe by Botany 500

Sorry you have to go through that, Shir.

At the end of May, I went to a family gathering, and saw my Mom the last time before this Friday. She had slowly but steadily been declining for years, and she had just received her cancer diagnosis, and I knew that the end was coming soon. In the end, it wasn’t the cancer that got her, but the cancer treatments left her in such a bad state that she finally just gave up.

I’ve been in such a deep funk all summer, which I was in denial about the causes of, but after she died, with me there to see it, I now feel like a weight has been lifted off me.

I grew up in Northern New Jersey, but my Mom was from the Jersey Shore, and she moved back about 15 years ago. My sisters researched our ancestry, and Mom has very deep roots to the area. My sister pointed out the graveyard behind the funeral home, and said that my Mom has relatives there going back to the Eighteenth Century.

Thanks, everyone, for your support.


Pix - Aug 04, 2024 3:50:52 pm PDT #1936 of 3451
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

I’ve been in such a deep funk all summer, which I was in denial about the causes of, but after she died, with me there to see it, I now feel like a weight has been lifted off me.

Oh, Tom. It's so hard, but I'm so glad to hear this. Waiting for someone to die is...I don't even know how to finish that sentence. But I'm glad to hear you're feeling a tiny bit of respite.

Shir, I'm so sorry this continues to be your reality. Thinking about you.


Jesse - Aug 04, 2024 4:29:34 pm PDT #1937 of 3451
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Still thinking of you in what comes next, Tom. Love to you.


Laura - Aug 04, 2024 5:49:24 pm PDT #1938 of 3451
Our wings are not tired.

I’ve been in such a deep funk all summer, which I was in denial about the causes of, but after she died, with me there to see it, I now feel like a weight has been lifted off me.

It is good that you were able to be there. I hope this helps bring you peace and comfort.


sj - Aug 04, 2024 6:19:53 pm PDT #1939 of 3451
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Tom, my thoughts are with you.

Shir, I’m glad you’re safe.

Karl, I’m sorry you’re having such a difficult time. I’m glad you’re able to be with good people.

My therapist is leaving, and she just texted me to change our final appointment to virtual. She has already set me up with a new therapist at my practice, but I’m still feeling all sorts of panic. And part of me is wondering why I’m even bothering seeing another therapist.


NoiseDesign - Aug 04, 2024 7:16:50 pm PDT #1940 of 3451
Our wings are not tired

Tom, my heart goes out to you.


lisah - Aug 04, 2024 8:48:17 pm PDT #1941 of 3451
Punishingly Intricate

Sending you love, Tom


askye - Aug 05, 2024 1:58:15 am PDT #1942 of 3451
Thrive to spite them

I need some health ~ma for M. We had the bathroom floor replaced. It took 14 hours. His nieces step dad did it. But they didn't check something with the water and the toilet was running all night.

His mom knew but I woke us up at 4 am to tell us because that was ...better in her mind. Anyway. m went out to the street to shut it off and bashed his toe with the metal thing, possibly broke it. Ripped the nail off. We are at the ER.


lisah - Aug 05, 2024 5:14:23 am PDT #1943 of 3451
Punishingly Intricate

Oh ow!! Poor M! Hope the ER is able to see him quickly


askye - Aug 05, 2024 7:19:47 am PDT #1944 of 3451
Thrive to spite them

M has a broken toe, he lost his toenail but gained 4 stitches. He also has a prescription for antibiotics and anxiety (the ER doc gave him I'm not sure how much but his anxiety over this is really bad...he was frustrated and anxious about the water running and possibly causing damage and that was a factor in the accident). Right now he is on the couch with his foot elevated and asleep with Duchess asleep on top of him so hopefully he will feel better when he wakes up.

I don't want to turn the water back on until it can get fixed but that will be later this evening.

I've had about 2 hours of sleep and I need to get a nap so I can go and get M's prescriptions when they are ready, I'm tired enough I was trying to figure out why they weren't ready yet...at 8 am when the pharmacy isn't open. But I need to sleep so I feel ok driving over there.

I had to call out of work because no way I can work like this. And I have tomorrow off so I have 2 days I can really dote on M and try to take care of him.