Mal: Okay. She won't be winning any beauty contests anytime soon. But she is solid. Ship like this, be with ya 'til the day you die. Zoe: 'Cause it's a deathtrap.

'Out Of Gas'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Steph L. - Oct 02, 2026 1:34:19 pm PDT #14205 of 14218
That which does not kill you should RUN

I wish I'd asked my doctor about HRT the instant I started having perimenopause symptoms. I'm on it now, and it has made a world of difference.

Fucking life-changing, and it's been less than 2 weeks. My OB/GYN did a blood test for my testosterone level and based on the results she added topical testosterone to my HRT cocktail. My understanding is full effects don't really kick in for 3 months or more, which feels like taking testosterone's effectiveness on faith for a while.

Progesterone has not made an appreciable effect on my sleep, which makes me sad. Though Dr. Google says "It often takes up to 2 weeks of consistent bedtime dosing to experience steady, full-night sleep improvements." And it hasn't been a full 2 weeks for me yet, so maybe my sleep will start improving in the very near future. Fingers crossed!


-t - Oct 02, 2026 1:36:39 pm PDT #14206 of 14218
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I wish I had some sort of tracker to tell me how far along the work on my car was


Laura - Oct 02, 2026 2:00:34 pm PDT #14207 of 14218
Our wings are not tired.

Poor Skinner is sick again. He has had frequent digestive issues throughout his life so I don't pay attention to that anymore. He threw up last night and didn't want to eat this morning, but that happens so often it was ignored. This changed when I was giving him morning ear rubs, as one does, and he was noticeably warmer than usual. Called the vet and brought him in. Temp of 104.4. When he had a bunch of tests done a couple of months ago, all his blood tests were completely normal. Today, all are screwed up. White cells up, red cells down, liver way the hell out of whack. So injections and a couple different kinds of antibiotics, as well as liver meds. She wouldn't even give him anything for the fever because his liver was so off.

Bottom line, I would be significantly better off if I had chosen veterinary medicine as a career. Just sayin'.


-t - Oct 02, 2026 2:06:48 pm PDT #14208 of 14218
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Aw, poor Skinner. Hope the vet can get it sorted out.


Laura - Oct 02, 2026 3:01:01 pm PDT #14209 of 14218
Our wings are not tired.

I've had dogs all my life, more than I can even remember, and this is the first time I ever gave one a morning hug and they were warm to touch. Poor boo.


Calli - Oct 02, 2026 5:21:55 pm PDT #14210 of 14218
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Health~ma for Skinner.

It was a one-off class for Coptic binding.

That looks neat! I had a book group meeting at my library last night and asked them about a bookbinding workshop. They gave me a firm maybe. So we’ll see, I guess.

Re: menopause. I was done at 43, and I didn’t even notice. That’s because I spent 18 months before that taking care of my dying dad, and I was on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds for a big chunk of it. As coping methods go, I can’t recommend it. But it is very nice to be done.


Laura - Oct 03, 2026 4:30:57 am PDT #14211 of 14218
Our wings are not tired.

Yes, Calli. I am sure that emotional upheaval contributes significantly to the hormonal shift. Of course, I put the whole menstrual process on the list of things that the maker didn't think through very well. See also knees and backs.


sj - Oct 03, 2026 8:59:41 am PDT #14212 of 14218
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

You have almost all convinced me to ask my doctor about hrt. Because perimenopause is a bitca. I’m 49 for the record.

Pix, ime perimenopause definitely makes adhd symptoms more intense.


Steph L. - Oct 03, 2026 9:38:49 am PDT #14213 of 14218
That which does not kill you should RUN

You have almost all convinced me to ask my doctor about hrt. Because perimenopause is a bitca.

In addition to helping with hot flashes and mood, hrt has substantial long-term benefits on heart health and bone strength when you start it in perimenopause. It can help joint pain, too (fingers crossed).

Just in the past few days, my mood has improved so much that I hadn't realized how much it had dropped, or how long it had been this low (a long damn time). It's like switching from an older TV to an HD TV. Everything is just brighter and sparklier.


P.M. Marc - Oct 03, 2026 11:26:25 am PDT #14214 of 14218
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

I recommend anyone thinking of menopause hormone therapy subscribe to The Vajenda to get deep dives into what does and does not have strong evidence supporting it. There's a lot of marketing that turns out to not have a lot of evidence behind it and many risks that have to be weighed.