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'Safe'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

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beekaytee - Feb 06, 2026 8:36:16 am PST #11461 of 11466
Compassionately intolerant

Thank you all for your kind thoughts. I hope to be around more now, and especially to get caught up on all y'all's lives.

Cagney died 24 hours ago. He was still strong, and barky and stubborn and loved by the masses, and constantly begging for more food. But four days ago, he began showing signs of extreme pain. He never yelped, or indicated where it was coming from. But, for the first time in his life, he refused food. And, it showed in his overall posture. But, since arthritis was so much a part of that long dog's adulthood, I just adjusted his pain meds.

On Tuesday, it was one crisis after another. A neighbor took us to the emergency room and sat with us for six hours.

At that point, it became a swirling series of 'it's this. no wait, it's probably that, noooo. it's definitely this other thing.' Except it ended up being none of those things. He spent 45 hours on very strong drugs. (thank the gods)

I was definitively clear that I would not let him suffer, and I was not banking on false hope, but his vital signs were all _normal_. He did not have cancer and there was no musculature or spinal excuses for the pain. An ultrasound showed some organ anomalies, but none that would have required surgery.

In the end, he took the decision out of my hands by simply shutting down. We helped him along yesterday morning. No pain. No fear. Just peace.

I'm so grateful for the lessons I learned that helped me to keep Cagney healthy and happy for 5076 days. 3 years beyond a Basset Hound's usual.

And, I am incomplete. I genuinely do not know what is next, and I'm not what you would call okay, but it's not like when Bartleby died. I'm just unmoored. After 23 years of having a quirky, challenging and beloved dog glued to my side, I feel like what happens when you've been on a boat for a long time and suddenly have to stand on dry land.

I'm sorry to parachute in and take up so much space. But, you've known me, and them, for so long, it felt right to close the story.


Steph L. - Feb 06, 2026 8:41:54 am PST #11462 of 11466
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Bonny, it's so hard to walk the line between not wanting to make that decision too soon but not wanting to prolong pain and suffering, and it's only harder when so many of the test results and signs are "normal." You and Cagney were so lucky to have each other, and I'm so sorry for your loss.


bennett - Feb 06, 2026 9:19:25 am PST #11463 of 11466

What Steph said.


erikaj - Feb 06, 2026 9:25:48 am PST #11464 of 11466
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-

yeah, this.


JenP - Feb 06, 2026 9:52:37 am PST #11465 of 11466

Perfectly said, Steph. Much love to you, bee. Rest well, sweet Cagney.


brenda m - Feb 06, 2026 10:05:05 am PST #11466 of 11466
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Oh Bonny. Oh Cagney. I’m so so sorry.


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