I'm so sorry. You and Cagney were so good for each other. Much love.
A man walks down the street in that hat, people know he's not afraid of anything.
Wash ,'The Message'
Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Laura - Feb 06, 2026 10:53:51 am PST #11467 of 11471
Our wings are not tired.
DavidS - Feb 06, 2026 10:57:24 am PST #11468 of 11471
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
As your friend said, Cagney's last gift was to ease out of this world without forcing you to make that decision. Much love to you.
Shir - Feb 06, 2026 11:10:33 am PST #11469 of 11471
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Bonny, I'm so sorry.
lisah - Feb 06, 2026 11:17:08 am PST #11470 of 11471
Punishingly Intricate
I’m so sorry for your loss, Bonny. Cagney was lucky to have you as his person.
beekaytee - Feb 06, 2026 11:57:03 am PST #11471 of 11471
Compassionately intolerant
Thank you all so much. He really was a gift to me.
Today, I am looking forward to when I stop unconsciously taking care of him and then noticing that we won't be going on that walk and I don't need to cook for him.
David, I spoke to her again, and she had an interesting, metaphysical take on why Cagney had been really distant, not avoidant but more _void_, on Tuesday and beyond. As I tried to lift him into my neighbor's car, it was chaotic, and at one point, he 'melted'...just flopped over. I honestly thought he'd been paralyzed. Or, that the pain had overcome him.
He never really noticed me, or anyone else, after that. My friend E theorizes that, in that moment his 'doggyness' left, such that his spirit actually died in my arms. It feels like it should not, but that actually comforts me. The docs were amazing, but I like the idea that he wasn't really present for all that.