Please...Wesley...why can't I stay?

Fred ,'A Hole in the World'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


smonster - Jun 16, 2024 2:12:26 pm PDT #1141 of 3468
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Popping in to say hi and I CAN HAS LOCALISTAS. It feels so good just knowing i have multiple Buffistas in relative proximity.

They're helping but they're just working your last nerve at the same time!

I figured you could relate, Hec.

Haphazard mini-meara from memory: sending you and your dad love, Atropa.

Re: advanced directives, my brother went ahead and did all that stuff for himself after my mom died. I need to get on that after I settle in a little. I don't have a will or anything yet.

Deeply personal feminist rant ahoy.

Laura, i am specifically talking about Men Not Following Directions, and in this case three of the four were being paid money by me! To handle My Stuff. And the fourth was a neighbor who volunteered to help (and never listens. I was desperate, okay? I didn't think he could fuck up taking down curtains but he did). So yeah, this is a gendered thing.

Which was confirmed Saturday because my unloading crew was four women and one of the least toxic cis dudes I know, who i still had to check for talking over me.

As for the taking boxes off me, it is a bodily autonomy thing. If I am in bodily possession of an item you Do Not take it away from me without at least eye contact. I have had a heavy backpack ripped from my back when i was on stairs without asking permission which nearly subluxed my shoulder.

I have had Facilities employees take recycling bins from me. I have had bosses carry a ladder for me. Like, sweetie, it's my literal job. Trust that i can manage without you. Maybe try *asking* if I need help and then not asking if I'm sure ten times, because that strongly implies I don't know my own capabilities.

Women don't generally do that (though i have done it for other women and am working on not doing it) and some of the first carpenters I worked with, two crusty grumpy dudes in their 40s, didn't do that to me.

Hell, my most recent boss took me off helping move a scaffold full of very heavy lumber instead of his son. Who had just run over his own foot because he didn't listen to his dad's instructions to go slow. Never mind that I have been doing this for decades and P works in tech. Or that my center of gravity is lower. Or that I played rugby for five years and thus can move the cart more efficiently than they can, and more safely because they were doing it straight up and relying on upper body strength.

But I'm just the little woman with a bad back, even if G used to call me "Muscles." This is the difference between being perceived as an equal vs a token Strong Woman (TM).

Shifting topics, Drew!! Talk to me about Pair Eyewear! I wonder if i can get insurance to pay for them. I've been curious since I started seeing ads for them.


Laura - Jun 17, 2024 3:00:08 am PDT #1142 of 3468
Our wings are not tired.

Welcome to Monday, Buffistas! Today we celebrate the birth of Cass! Happy birthday wishes in abundance. I hope that you are being spoiled today and that the year to come is filled with happy surprises.


smonster - Jun 17, 2024 5:06:20 am PDT #1143 of 3468
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

That probably should have been a journal entry. It's been a very frustrating few weeks.


JenP - Jun 17, 2024 5:48:44 am PDT #1144 of 3468

Oh, I'm glad you shared that here, smonster.

Separate note: Happy Birthday, Cass!


sj - Jun 17, 2024 8:42:29 am PDT #1145 of 3468
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Happy Birthday, Cass!!!

smonster, yay on having more localistas!!!

I'm resting and recovering from Father's Day for part of today, and then I have to get the teacher gifts together for the end of the school year.


msbelle - Jun 17, 2024 9:01:06 am PDT #1146 of 3468
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb

Whiiinnnneeeeee

I want a salad for lunch. I don’t want to have to drive. But I work in the boonies.

Whiiinnnnneeeeee

I am also tired and would like a nap.


-t - Jun 17, 2024 9:47:20 am PDT #1147 of 3468
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Happy Cass day!

Always glad to have your thinky thoughts, smonster.

Is it, like, standard that alphabetizing puts capital letters before non? Is that new? I don't think I learned it way that way but I've run across it in a couple of different software applications now and I find it confusing every time.


askye - Jun 17, 2024 11:00:31 am PDT #1148 of 3468
Thrive to spite them

Happy Birthday Cass!!

I had gear low key birthday. Went up to Moms and spent the night. We had "Old Mexican" Saturday and "New Mexican" Sunday. Meaning we went to our old usual Mexican restaurant and then to the new favorite. Brevard has like....6 or 7 Mexican restaurants.

M got me the Lego Tuxedo Cat that looks exactly like Penny (on my FB and Instagram). Except Lego!Penny has a white tipped tail . M saw it and worked to track it down and I love it. I've never put together a Lego project that big (1710 pieces) but the Lego Builder app has been recommended. Im going to start it tomorrow.

Dad had to have 2 colonoscopies in 3 weeks the last one required 4 days of a clear liquid diet. There was a large polyp that had to be removed but he is ok. He just didn't feel like driving up for Birthday/Father's Day weekend.


P.M. Marc - Jun 17, 2024 11:57:15 am PDT #1149 of 3468
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

BIRTHDAY? MORE LIKE BIRTHYAY!

Am punchy. Obviously.


Jessica - Jun 17, 2024 11:59:20 am PDT #1150 of 3468
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?

Happy birthday!

There is an Onerous Work Project that I've been assigned and it is proving to be Extremely Onerous.