What is your childhood trauma?

Cordelia ,'Lessons'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


-t - Dec 16, 2025 4:16:42 pm PST #10613 of 11179
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Two glasses of wine and brought the third back to my desk to finish the day. Successful mingle? Perhaps, I only mingled with people from my department, but I don't get a lot of chances to chat with them so that was actually nice. 'This calls for a spreadsheet" Christmas sweater was a big hit, thanks, Hec! we all agreed the no fanfare demise of the Turkey coupon for Thanksgiving was disappointing, but one of my department-mates won $500 in the Outlet sale raffle, so that was nice.

Our new contractor starts tomorrow, and my boss is on vacation after Friday, and our VP is out week after next, and our new manager starts before my boss gets back, so this will be an interesting couple of weeks. My boss said I'd be in charge and I said I would try not to crash into a tree, so I feel like expectations are ok.

I still have most of a glass of Cabernet and, like, 5 little dessert type things to see me through the next hour...


Hil R. - Dec 16, 2025 4:34:10 pm PST #10614 of 11179
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I'm definitely tempted by the crossword tournament. I'll need to check on my semester schedule, and when spring break is, and when Passover is, and all of that, before I can decide, though.

I'm nearly done with everything I need to do for this semester. Only thing left is submitting the grades for one class. That should take about fifteen minutes, max. But I can't do it until someone else finishes up a spreadsheet first, and so I'm just waiting on that.


-t - Dec 16, 2025 4:37:50 pm PST #10615 of 11179
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Oh, man, waiting for someone to finish something before you can finish your part is a trial!


sj - Dec 16, 2025 4:49:13 pm PST #10616 of 11179
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

ltc is keeping three out of the six items I bought her today, and she has something to wear for her holiday concert tomorrow. I’ll take that as a win.


-t - Dec 16, 2025 4:57:04 pm PST #10617 of 11179
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Definitely a win


JenP - Dec 16, 2025 4:58:20 pm PST #10618 of 11179

A 50% conversion rate is aces, sj!

I'm definitely tempted by the crossword tournament

Yay!


DavidS - Dec 16, 2025 6:32:37 pm PST #10619 of 11179
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

This calls for a spreadsheet" Christmas sweater was a big hit, thanks, Hec!

Woot!

My head stitches have effectively dissolved though my head wound is a little throbbing.

I took the pressure bandage off my arm but the steri-strips catch and yank on my sweater and that stings.


askye - Dec 17, 2025 8:26:37 am PST #10620 of 11179
Thrive to spite them

So Christmas shopping was kind of hectic and kind of fun. Part of the problem is waiting until the last minute. I do this every year. Christmas is on the 25th every year. I need to get it together next year.

Anyway we were going to do family presents but that kind of went out the window . We did get gifts for the kids especially the little ones. M's nephew and his wife have two that are 3 and a year (I think) and a third on the way. We found this

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I hope this link works. It's a rocking chair /rocking horse combo but it's a lion. They had a unicorn a, a dinosaur and something else. Honestly we wanted to get one for each of them it at $60 each there was no way. M wanted to get one for his littlest grand niece that was just born. I pointed out she wouldn't be able to use it until at least next Christmas and we should get a baby present. He found a few things but wasn't sure. There is a children's boutique right near us that is reasonably priced so I think we should get the baby something there.

M wass debating between this and the dino and decided to get the lion because he got a lion themed little lovey for the baby as a shower gift. Only when we got him he realized he got the lion themed for the grand niece not the grand nephew that is going to be born... That was the dino. I said we could return it but he doesn't want to

Mongo, our chiweenier , took one look at that lion and started growling and barking and almost attacked it.


-t - Dec 17, 2025 8:46:44 am PST #10621 of 11179
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

That is adorable, askye!


P.M. Marc - Dec 17, 2025 9:57:51 am PST #10622 of 11179
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

Hope you are holding up ok, Plei

Heh. I wish. Unfortunately, Ticky had an adverse reaction to the antiseizure med she started in November, or, well, we suspect that's what caused the severe rash that sent her to the ER, BUT, they wanted to rule out a whole bunch of other stuff and keep an eye on the rash, so they admitted her, and when they discovered she was no longer immune to measles despite vaccination, put her in an isolation/quarantine room. Because the rash started Friday after titrating up, a lot of lab work couldn't really get done until Monday, so she's still stuck in there, the steroids for the rash are making her moody, we can't visit her actual room (we can FaceTime outside it while looking in), she already had enough medical trauma before this (her FND flared up in October, too, so she's back on a forearm crutch), and this year sucks so much.

Plus, all the stress of the year made me backslide on diet and exercise after a couple of years of getting back into shape and healthier, so I just feel gross and defeated.

I am so sick of having to try to hold it together, and I know I have to, but I feel like Job. And my immediate side of the family has effectively fallen apart. I don't have my mom. My sister's in a group home. My brother is...well, still crazy, but somehow now the less crazy sibling. Dad's stuck in memory care. The empty lot that used to be my childhood home is still an empty lot with no forward movement on the permits.

I don't even want to hope that things will get better. I feel like hoping things will get better is just going to make the universe make them get worse. And the bitch of it is that because this is all situational, realistically, there's nothing I can do but push through it.