You're not failing at all! She feels very confident in being herself. It's what you want. It's just a pain in the ass to parent a kid like that when they are younger. She will get so much easier as she gets just a few years older.

Thanks. She was such an easy baby, and I tried never to brag about it because I knew eventually things would turn around. It's much better now that she is back in school all day. She loves school. She loves interacting with the other kids and learning. And I keep thinking life might become even easier once she learns to read, but we'll see. She has been stubborn about having us teach her even though she loves to be read to.

And I keep thinking life might become even easier once she learns to read, but we'll see.

This was very much the case with Brendon. It changed everything. It opened his world and he was so much more content.

Also, being gay was a definite instant 4-F, but it was notable among all the other 4-Fs in having no explanatory note at all. Most of them had appendices explaining why this disqualified someone, why the recruiter would have to say no, but in 1940 being gay was not just taboo, but so taboo that it was listed only as "Sexual perversion," with no explanatory note at all. Not even a warning about malingerers. It was so taboo at the time that it never entered any recruiter's mind that anyone would claim it if it weren't so (a blind spot which the Vietnam generation would take full advantage of a quarter century later).

I was wondering about this when I saw Hair last week. Why wouldn't Claude just claim to be gay? Wolf would have walked into the induction center with him holding hands for believability in a heartbeat.

Yay, Zmayhems and general awesomeness, and awesomeness in HS, which can be so hard, in particular.

Yay for negative tests and parents improving!

For those that didn't catch my FB posts - I woke up yesterday absolutely FREEZING, though the thermostat said mid-70s. Went back to bed and slept (with extra blankets) until around 1pm when I roused myself enough to track down a working thermometer. It said 102, when I usually register about 97. I wasn't too concerned about myself - chills, achiness, and congestion (which could have just been my regular allergies) were the only symptoms I was feeling - I got the vaccine in April and frankly would love an excuse not to go into work for 2 weeks. But I had lunch with a friend on Saturday who has an 11-year-old at home. So I was *really* concerned I might have passed something on to her to take home to the unvaxxed kid. But I was feeling a lot better by last night, and my temp when I went to bed said 99. This morning it was back to 97. So apparently, 24 hour bugs are still a thing. And I was already working from home today, so that works out.

I'm glad the bug was short-lived, Epic!

Epic, people didn't claim to be gay because the prejudice and repercussions were devastating. Young men who were even thought to be gay (usually called something much less polite) were subject to social shunning and being beaten up with little or no provocation. They could be denied jobs (at a previous - terrible - job, one young man was fired for being insufficiently closeted), housing ... the whole range of things you need to survive.

Hello people! I am over a week done with radiation & have random itchy, peely, dry skin on the treated area. I slather the area with a number of different medicated goos three times a day & I hope it’s not going to take too long to heal. I’m picking up my anti- hormone pills on Thursday (payday) - I’m hoping to get some help with the cost because even with my insurance it’s expensive (for me). Luckily there is a program the the social worker from the hospital believes I qualify for. Fingers crossed.

My next thing is getting the shingles vaccine & after that a tetanus shot.

ION, I saw this interview over in the BBC’s Instagram & thought of Jilli: [link]

Thanks, Todd. I suppose I was only thinking of the microcosm of the "Hair" world, where everybody was fine with Wolf's crushes on both Claude and Mick Jagger, not so much the world at large - much less open-minded.

Yay for no more radiation! Fingers crossed for healing and affordable meds!

Fingers crossed for $$ help for the pills, sumi! And continuing healing~ma - yay for being done with radiation!

I get my shingles vaccine and a mammogram tomorrow. I'm not due for tetanus until next year, I think.

The 4F stuff reminded me that my mom recently told me that my grandpa found out he was deaf in one ear through being rejected for service for WWII and only figured out afterwards that they were testing him to see if he was faking because he didn't even know he was reacting any differently than anyone would. So he ended up working in the shipyards in Oakland, and one thing he did was refit the General Miegs from being a ocean liner for leisure travel to being troop transit, and that turned out to be the ship (right after the war but not yet refitted to be a regular liner) that brought my dad (and his family) to the US

done with radiation

Yay!

slather the area with a number of different medicated goos

Non-medicated, but "O'Keeffe's Working Hands" has worked very well for me.

anti- hormone pills...I’m hoping to get some help with the cost

If you haven't already, check goodrx.com
PAN foundation: [link] was recommended to me, but I haven't checked them out yet.

it’s expensive

Yes. Yes it is. My anti-hormone prescription is abiraterone acetate. If I hadn't already reached my annual out-of-pocket maximum, that med. would cost me $240 per day.

Thanks, dcp, I will check that out if the social worker doesn’t come through for me.