That doesn't sound like a Gud screw up, that just sounds like a thing that happened.

I am so fed up with work today. This re-org has been in transition for so long that I have passed through all the stages to acceptance and circled back to anger

Gud, I too, have difficulty when asked out of the blue what I need from the grocery. (I also set a rule that if you don't put it on the list, then you can't complain about not getting it when I go. Telling me doesn't count! Hi, swiss cheese brain!) If your wife wanted you to grill something, she could have easily said so instead of believing you could read her mind and then getting huffy because you couldn't. Really, I can't see anything you did WRONG. She didn't get the answer she wanted because she didn't ask the question she actually wanted answered!

Anyway, random: Does anyone know anyone at Hopkins SAIS? or who was there fairly recently? I would like gossip.

Yes, if it were not for my lists I would be incapacitated completely.

Now a reasonable scenario would be, "hey dear, how 'bout you cook burgers on the grill tonight? I'm going to the store now; would you like me to pick some up?".

Gud, you will never be able to do the magical correct thing to make her happy. Even if you get the "right" answer, she'll just keep moving the goal posts. It's always a trap.

Hello peoples - I am 25% done with radiation treatment. So far no side effects that I can perceive.

I’ve been able to get rides to the cancer center but haven’t worked out the whole 20 days yet.

Apparently the medical officials in Japan have come out in favor of ivermectin.

Okay, this school gets a gold star! A Texas school district is pushing back on Gov. Greg Abbott's mask mandate ban by making face masks a part of its dress code. Loopholes for the win.

Hi, sumi! It's good to hear the treatment is going well. I hope you are able to work out the rides. The center may have assistance for that too.

Also, What Dana Said.

Glad to hear that, sumi! Still hoping for superpowers, of course.

Anyway, random: Does anyone know anyone at Hopkins SAIS? or who was there fairly recently? I would like gossip.

No, but for some reason I love that you're asking? Maybe because I love gossip

Hello peoples - I am 25% done with radiation treatment. So far no side effects that I can perceive.

YAY! Fingers crossed it continues!

Separate question: my parents want me to come "home" for Christmas. "Home" is where they live in South Carolina. They moved there a few years ago, I've been twice, but only once for Christmas, between breaking my ankle and COVID (I went in the summer, another time). But now my sister doesn't live nearby, so I'd have to either stay with them (oh god) or get a hotel room. And South Carolina not known for mask or vaccine compliance (though my parents are being quite careful, thankfully). If I could have them come here, or meet me elsewhere, I would, but my dad is really not able to travel much (he's semi-wheelchair bound--can walk a few steps to the couch or whatnot, but not much more). What do I do? My mom is sad because she hasn't seen me in two years, my dad could pass away any time (...though he's been saying "I might not be around next Christmas" for the past...20 years?). I'm thinking of offering to go in like, early November, when there's fewer crowds (and cheaper, and easier to find dog sitter), even though that won't be very "holiday"-y. Thoughts??

My first thought was that I've heard flying on Christmas Day is amazing for lack of crowds, lines, etc. - but that doesn't help with where to stay...

I was trying to think what my dad would want if we hadn't seen each other through all this. I think that he'd want me to come whenever - the point is to see you, not necessarily to see you under the tree or whatever. They probably suggested Christmas partly because they assume you'll get a little time off,etc. They wouldn't just ask you to come whenever. I'd bet that if they hear that November 3 (or whatever day) is an option, they'd jump at it. Especially if you're offering to come sooner.