Laura-I think he's handling it fairly well. I mean, he is a good kid and he has done some things that aren't the best judgment. Like, he plays a bunch of video games and he went and bought various expansions and things because Jay's paypal was attached to it. And he knew what he was doing and somehow managed to buy $700 worth of various add ons and expansions and what not (I was getting this from Mom so her knowledge of this stuff isn't great). When he was confronted about it he admitted, knew he shouldn't have, and was upset and immediately offered to repay it/work it off and gave up the $170 he had saved towards repaying it.
But then when he is given chores or jobs to do to earn money to work off the rest he balks and doesn't want to do it. Which I'm going to chalk up to being an 11 year old with a shit load going on in his life.
He's also gone off to a friend's house without telling anyone multiple times. Or invited the friend to come over without asking if it was ok.
Jay has a inversion thing for his back. And Jay's son got on it, got turned upside down and of course got stuck. Mom was there but she couldn't get him flipped up right and he had been upside down long enough his head was hurting. Mom was able to turn the whole thing on its side and get him out of it that way.
But so far nothing like self harm or things like that. We will see what happens. He was doing some kind of martial arts and the place he was going waived the fees for him I don't know if they still are.
There were plans for him to go spend sometime with another cousin out in Texas but that can't happen until the guardianship issue is resolved. So I'm not sure what will happen once he's out of school and he is just with my aunt all the time. Well, Jay's fiancé is part of his life and he has his half sisters but it's not the same as having another adult in the house or having summer activities for him.
Laura sorry the answer is - reduce stress. That was what I was told to handle clenching my teeth. I told the dentist that if I could control my stress levels I would be doing that.
I will admit one reason I have the job I do and why I haven't pushed myself more to finish college or do something with more responsibility is stress control. My job can be stressful but there are things I can control and since so much of my life has been trying to get by while dealing with high anxiety I just don't want to do that anymore.
Laura, what stress app do you like?
I've downloaded an app I think Teppy recommended for meditation stuff, and that is nice enough. [link] I'm sure there are a bunch. Mostly I handle stress by having the television tuned to YouTube underwater reef videos, or ocean waves and that type of things rather than news as background media. I've also put a number of hypertension binaural type videos on from time to time. I adapted a number of changes years ago like driving the beach instead of the highway and being vigilant about my sleep.
Yeah, a magic wand would be nice, but stress is part of life. The work and kids stress stuff I try and adopt a somewhat serenity attitude of accepting things I can't change and changing those I can. Generally I think I am good at it, but my dentist takes one look at my teeth and reminds me that maybe not so much.
Random: Generally I never watch anything with commercials, but it happens when watching live sports. There is one that just shows a grilled cheese sandwich being cooked and a dude singing about it being time for grilled cheese. I just find its simplicity and effectiveness charming. I don't even have an urge to fast forward.
driving the beach instead of the highway
Hah! Yeah, when I wasn't allowed to drive myself to or from chemo earlier this year, I got some grief from my family for giving them directions that avoided the interstate.
Incipient road rage has been a problem for me the past five years (I had to remove "March of Cambreadth" from my driving playlist). It has gotten worse the past two, due to my treatments. My emotions are much more volatile now.
One benefit of working from home this past year has been no daily commute. Mornings weren't so bad (so long as I was on the road by 6:15), I would use I-35 then, but coming home took twice as long, because I stayed off the interstate.
and being vigilant about my sleep
Yeah, that works for me too. The temptation to take an afternoon nap has become very strong, but I have learned to resist and work through it -- the few times I have given in, I had bad insomnia that night, and was useless the next day.
I am in training to become a web content updated. WE DO NOT SUPPORT THE OXFORD COMMA and I want to object to the highest levels.
WE DO NOT SUPPORT THE OXFORD COMMA
Good, the Oxford Comma is bullshit.
Good, the Oxford Comma is bullshit.
As reliable as Drew's hatred of hammock stands.
