What should I do, then? Send her a gift? Sacrifice? … Unholy fruit basket?

Angel ,'Just Rewards (2)'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Shir - May 20, 2021 12:04:23 am PDT #6597 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

First things first:

Cindy, tons and tons and tons of ~ma for you and your family. I'm sorry you're going through this. msbelle, I'm sorry that Mac is not communicating.

Also, happy belated birthdays and anniversaries.

Has anyone heard from Shir (or Nilly)? I don't think Shir has posted in over a week. The most recent Natter post I see from her is on May 11th, but I'm not on FB and haven't checked other threads.

Thank you. We're... umm, fine? (for some values of fine). Nilly, her kids and her husband are in a safe-ish area. I'm in a bit less safe-ish area, but still an area that is much safer than others (I just sleep in clothing that will allow me to take shelter in the stairwell with other neighbors, if needed. And I'm alert and listening for sirens. And cancelling plans to stay as safe as possible). Nilly and I both have family and friends that are in much more dangerous areas and we are worried about them. I think that seeing all this happening and being able to do so very little about it is the worst part. I do what I can (among other things, I publicly declared that my apartment and the empty room in it are open to anyone who need to get away from a more violent area for a few days), but ceasefire depends on things and people that are out of my control. There's so much mending that needs to be done here, in all sorts of ways. The good news is that there is enough work for anyone who wants to do something to help in some way. The bad news is that it's heartbreaking and beyond frustrating to wait and see the destruction that is being done in our name, knowing that this helps nothing and no one.


msbelle - May 20, 2021 6:03:45 am PDT #6598 of 30000
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb

Shir, thank you for checking in. Things are just awful.


Laura - May 20, 2021 6:53:39 am PDT #6599 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

I'm so worry that things are so terrible, Shir. I understand the out of control feeling so much. Know you and yours are in my thoughts every day.


sj - May 20, 2021 6:54:28 am PDT #6600 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

{{{Shir}}} Stay safe.


JenP - May 20, 2021 7:05:39 am PDT #6601 of 30000

Thank you for checking in, Shir. Constantly thinking about you both, your families, and everyone there, really.


Matt the Bruins fan - May 20, 2021 7:48:09 am PDT #6602 of 30000
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand

Good to see your pixels, Shir. Stay safe!


Steph L. - May 20, 2021 10:03:26 am PDT #6603 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

Thanks for checking in, Shir. You and Nilly have been on my mind a lot with recent events.

The hoarding folks came over this morning for what was supposed to be the final cleanout of the rest of the basement, and it turns out that in working up the initial estimate, they didn't include the funky area under the stairs and around the washer/dryer/stationary tub. So that will have to be a separate job that they'll come back later for (maybe next week), which is fine by us. We just want it all taken care of.


JenP - May 20, 2021 10:04:43 am PDT #6604 of 30000

Well, I have a dress for the wedding on Saturday. I do need a different bra for it. And some nice, supportive sandals, but... progress!


JenP - May 20, 2021 10:05:20 am PDT #6605 of 30000

Good for getting it all taken care of.


Topic!Cindy - May 20, 2021 10:56:25 am PDT #6606 of 30000
What is even happening?

Teppy, you and Tim are kicking clutter's butt. I've gone from proud of you to envious. Go you two!

Thank you. We're... umm, fine? (for some values of fine). Nilly, her kids and her husband are in a safe-ish area. I'm in a bit less safe-ish area, but still an area that is much safer than others (I just sleep in clothing that will allow me to take shelter in the stairwell with other neighbors, if needed. And I'm alert and listening for sirens. And cancelling plans to stay as safe as possible). Nilly and I both have family and friends that are in much more dangerous areas and we are worried about them. I think that seeing all this happening and being able to do so very little about it is the worst part. I do what I can (among other things, I publicly declared that my apartment and the empty room in it are open to anyone who need to get away from a more violent area for a few days),

Shir, I'm so glad you checked in and that you and Nilly remain okay thus far. I'm holding a good thought for both of you, your families and friends, and praying for true peace.

but ceasefire depends on things and people that are out of my control. There's so much mending that needs to be done here, in all sorts of ways. The good news is that there is enough work for anyone who wants to do something to help in some way. The bad news is that it's heartbreaking and beyond frustrating to wait and see the destruction that is being done in our name, knowing that this helps nothing and no one.

You touched on something I keep thinking about. All the normal Israeli and Palestinian people who just want to live their lives in peace and freedom with dignity are at the mercy of systems and people who want to retain and/or gain power. I am so sorry all of this is going on.

***

C's situation is not resolved. An RN who is clinical access manager from the hospital called this a.m. and said now BC/BS wants to refuse (but hasn't yet) both the biologic that worked well for him for the better part of two years (Remicade, i.e. infliximab), and the biosimilar that caused problems after two treatments (Inflectra, i.e. infliximab-dyyb), and instead, move him to one of two other biosimilars (Avsola, i.e. infliximab-axxq) or Renflexis (infliximab-abda).

The RN asked us to call BC/BS, talk to our case manager, and have our case manager call her. When we called, there was no case manager for C. DH had to hang on hold for 15 minutes while they assigned one, and then when he called her, he got her voice mail.

The whole thing is outrageous. The initial switch in January from Remicade to Inflectra was a non-medical switch. Non-medical switches shouldn't be done to Crohn's patients in the first place, because often/eventually medicines that once worked well for them stop working.

Now we need a medical switch, back to a proven-for-C drug, and they want to play Russian roulette with other biosimilars.

I don't even have a way to sum this all up, because my mind is just spinning.