I've been thinking about jury duty and the juror selection for Trump's trial. I've almost talked myself into believing that I could be impartial. I'd probably never get picked for several reasons, and I think Trump is a shitbag of a human, but if I was presented evidence that he was innocent (which he obviously isn't), I'd hope I could admit that.

I don't know, it's kind of a thought exercise. I've served on a jury once for a criminal trial and it was pretty obvious that the guy did it, so maybe I'm underestimating how hard it is to make a judgment when it's not cut-and-dried.

Visited kids and parents last week. We had planned to for both daughters and respective SOs to gather with us and my parents Saturday, but younger daughter called up the day before we left to work out things with my wife and it did not go well. My daughters GF (I'll say DGF) and my wife are still on bad terms since thanksgiving and DGF accused my wife of being, well, mean to younger daughter and things just downhill from there. I was putting away laundry at the time and didn't overhear things. Anyhow, younger daughter basically isn't interacting her mother now. Fortunately, she was okay getting together with me for a walk and ice cream and we had some time to talk. I tried to defend my wife while not attacking DGF (who wasn't there). My wife feels like I didn't really support her by doing that, but also said I did the best I could.

DGF had a very difficult relationship with her own mother which makes everything even more volatile. Younger daughter is saying that learning about DGF's family has made her process her own upbringing. She says she's very thankful for the way she was brought up in many respects, but that where were issues especially with my wife. She also said that she saw that I was emotionally abused and I failed to role model self-advocacy which was bad for her own ability to self-advocate. (I omitted that from my report of the conversation to my wife as I'm worried that would really make things difficult).

Meanwhile, my wife is feeling unfairly attacked by DGF (with some good reason, I do feel like she's being excessive) and she also feels like younger daughter is also being unreasonable and pointing out some of her faults.

I'm curious about what my older daughter would make of all of this, but I don't want to draw her into this so I'm not going to bring it up with her. I feel really caught in the middle. I mean I feel like I should always be in my wife's corner, but I also feel like I should always be in my daughter's corner.

I've been thinking about jury duty and the juror selection for Trump's trial. I've almost talked myself into believing that I could be impartial.

I feel like I could be impartial. I really like to be accurate, sometimes to an annoying degree (may be related to being on the spectrum). I don't know that facts well enough now to know if I think a crime has been committed or not.

've almost talked myself into believing that I could be impartial.

The only time I have been on a jury I found everyone took it seriously and listened to and examined everything despite it being obvious who was the scoundrel.

I'm sorry you are being put in the middle, Gud. However, your daughter does have a point about your emotional abuse and not standing up for yourself.

Just once around my block, and I live in a *very* small cul-de-sac

That is exactly what my dad used to do when he was building up his strength after heart surgery (in his small cul-de-sac, not yours, but I feel certain they are similar). An excellent start!

You are in a tough spot, Gud. I am glad you and youngest daughter can talk. I don't want to say your wife is wrong, but being supportive of her does not mean you can't support your daughter (and DGF, to some extent) when there is conflict between them. It sounds like you are balancing their needs pretty well to me. Also, you are allowed to look out for yourself as well as everyone else in the family. Just a reminder.

Sending supportive vibes, Gud.

You guys have inspired me to take a post-dinner walk! Heading out now. I'm going to estimate a leisurely 15 minutes.

I've recused myself from a jury when the defendant was the brother of one of my club advisors, and voted in line with the evidence when a sympathetic plaintiff's case fell apart on the stand. But I don't know if I could be impartial when the defendant is someone I feel deserving of being tossed into a sarlaac pit...

I'd never make it through the jury questionnaire for the Trump trial. There's a question about what podcasts you listen to, and unless I lied through my teeth that would rule me out in a hurry. Pod Save America, Lovett or Leave It, Straight White American Jesus, the Bulwark, the Ezra Klein Show...

I have been on a jury three times. Two were civil cases, and one was criminal.

In the criminal case, both prosecution and defence made bad impressions, and in the end a lot of what they spent time on in court was irrelevant to what the jury was eventually asked to decide. I came away wishing that the jury instructions had been given up front. In the jury room there was a lot of "Why did we spend hours listening to testimony about X, Y, and Z, when all we have to decide is Q?"

My other takeaway was reinforcement of the adage "the defendant should never take the stand." The prosecution did such a poor job making his case that there was clear room for reasonable doubt. Then the defendant went on the stand, made a terrible impression, and quickly removed any doubt that he was guilty.

In theory, I feel like I would lie, withold my contempt, downplay my disgust of the vile creature, to get a chance to send him to the pokey. But I would still take the proceedings seriously.