And you're sure this isn't just some fanboy thing? 'Cause I've fought more than a couple pimply, overweight vamps that called themselves Lestat.

Buffy ,'Lessons'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Tom Scola - Mar 11, 2024 9:43:54 am PDT #29109 of 30000
Mr. Scola’s wardrobe by Botany 500

You took me there when I visited in 2017! It had way more wood paneling than this diner.


JenP - Mar 11, 2024 9:48:32 am PDT #29110 of 30000

That's cool, Tom! I love the notes on the original pictures... heh. "Booths... cool or ugly?"

So, I was evaluated and diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type on Friday. I'm currently in the "wow, life could've been so different if I had only had a clue," stage of wonder and grief-ish. And looking at what I always thought was depression, "but that doesn't seem quite right, but look at what happens in my life, so I guess it must be depression, and a failure of character for oh-so-many things not achieved right or at all" in a new light. Anyway, a thing I know many of you are familiar with. I'm not sure meds are in my future, though. Anything that increases heart rate is not going to make my cardiologist happy. Do have some resources and getting a referral for someone trained in CBT for ADHD, I think she said.

And I'm starting on semaglutide probably on Wednesday for its heart protective and potentially digestive tract slowing down effects with a side of couldn't hurt to lose some weight either. I mean, I have Type II, too, but my A1Cs are super low these days after all the crap from before, so... well, I mean, I'm supposed to, assuming insurance approves.

Big medical doings in JenWorld. Processing.

In other news, it's super duper windy here today, and my dog looked at me like, "What is this fresh hell?" when I took her out this morning. "You expect me to relieve myself in this, this... whirlwind?" This, after a couple of rainy days of which Princess Birdie also does not approve. Dog's life, man.


Laura - Mar 11, 2024 9:56:11 am PDT #29111 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

Ooooh, this is opening the next block over from me:

Cool beans! I enjoyed the note, hate floor, see what's under. It should be a delight when finished.


Steph L. - Mar 11, 2024 9:59:16 am PDT #29112 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

You took me there when I visited in 2017! It had way more wood paneling than this diner.

It committed to the wood paneling, that's for sure!


Amy - Mar 11, 2024 10:30:43 am PDT #29113 of 30000
Because books.

Big medical doings in JenWorld. Processing.

I'll say. That's a lot. Breathe deep for a bit.


askye - Mar 11, 2024 10:33:49 am PDT #29114 of 30000
Thrive to spite them

I read some and then skimmed.

David I am so sorry Matilda is dealing with being bullied and about her friend's mom's diagnosis.

JenP welcome to the club! My brother got the results back from his assessment which was that he didn't she ADHD and it was just depression, probably, and a recommendation for therapy (different type than he is doing now and he wants to change therapists since his hasnt been helpful) and mediation and skills before tying medicine.

My nephew has started driving lessons! I barely get to chat with him because he is busy between school, his part time job, Boy Scouts, the kind of Boy scouts group, swim team and hanging out with his friends and I think I forgot something .

Lovey the now Pirate cat will probably only stay a Pirate cat. His eye got so bad because of an injury that led to the cataract and the complications. But he has moved in with Mom again and she's happy. He seems happy.

M's Mom brought home a kitten yesterday. Didn't tell us, was going to keep it in her room but forgot and left the door open. It got into the computer room and scared the shit out of me when I scared it. Kitten ended up hiding out in our room until M heard him peeing somewhere (I put some puppy pads down but we didn't have a spare litter box). We corralled it and gave it back to his mom. We are both firm that the cat has to go back. Then this morning she and her door open and had no idea where the cat was.

I will be honest the cat is very genetic looking and if it is as cuter I'd have a harder time being firm on no more cats. But his mom doesn't want a cat she wants a kitten. So in a year she's just going to want another one.

Daylight savings is rough to adjust to but daylight when. I get off work is nice.

I havebt talked to my dad in a month ....my parents tend to wait until I call them and I'd like for them to call me...so I've been waiting to see if Dad will call. I did finally text him . This past weekend was his 64th class reunion ! He said he was one of the few people who didn't need some kind of mobility assistance. They did a contest for Most Joint Replacement (might have been tongue in cheek I don't know) and someone had 5..both knees and hips and one shoulder.

And next Tues I will finally get to hangout with crafty friend ! Yay. I feel like I've been in kind of a fog the past couple of months and finally coming out of it


DavidS - Mar 11, 2024 11:26:02 am PDT #29115 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Big medical doings in JenWorld. Processing.

That's a lot. I was thinking recently about all of the people I know who have had later-in-life ADHD diagnoses.

And my thought was this: if that many people are considered to have a disorder because their brain doesn't neatly fit into capitalist work slots, maybe it's really the culture and the expectations that are fucked up.

If you were a farm wife in the 1800s or a chairmaker, would ADHD even be that visible or disordered? You could just hyperfocus on mending socks or tending garden or making pickles, or turning wood or inspecting lumber and there wouldn't be long stretches of same-y work that required intense focus, or multitasking, or commuting etc.

I've always found it useful to look at the history of diagnosis and how it changes over time. How women could be institutionalized for being too sassy or independent. The history of psychological care has always been used as a form of social control and coercion as much as it has existed to help people.

tl;dr: Blame Capitalism, and coercive systems of control!

(Mind I'm not dismissing ADHD or its challenges. I'm just saying if the culture were different it might not be seen as particularly atypical, but just a different brain flavor.)


Tom Scola - Mar 11, 2024 11:34:38 am PDT #29116 of 30000
Mr. Scola’s wardrobe by Botany 500

Oh, fuck Daylight Savings. I just hit a wall at work, and I need to take a nap RIGHT NOW.


DavidS - Mar 11, 2024 11:41:38 am PDT #29117 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Oh, fuck Daylight Savings.

That's just going to encourage it!

I like DST. This mainly comes from coaching Little League for more than ten years and being able to do after school practice without worrying about twilight resulting in black eyes from balls coming in out of the gloaming.

I like the extra evening light. The switchover never bothered Matilda much, but it surely messed up Emmett's sleep schedule for a month when he was little.


JenP - Mar 11, 2024 12:00:23 pm PDT #29118 of 30000

Yah, I know what you mean, David. There have definitely been periods where the "what" of how I was living at least parts of my life fit better with the way my brain works, which I realized even without naming anything about it. Mind, I never figured out how to extend the "what" out enough, but...

I'm just trying to ignore DST. Working from home makes that a thousand time easier. Birdie will get hungry earlier, right? I've taken to giving her one scoop about an hour before actual dinner time so she'll chill the eff out... then feed her the rest at actual dinner time.