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Anya ,'Empty Places'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


sj - Oct 18, 2023 8:31:39 am PDT #26249 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Sigh…I need to learn how to be more patient, and less easily frustrated with Mr. S.

I'm working on the same. I'm still feeling guilty for totally losing my patience Sunday night.


askye - Oct 18, 2023 8:38:59 am PDT #26250 of 30000
Thrive to spite them

I thought I had posted. But David the service was so lovey and it just felt like JZ.


-t - Oct 18, 2023 9:38:03 am PDT #26251 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Whoa. Felt a little shaking (not very common here, there is a nearby fault but it isn't very active) and looked up to see what it was from - a 4.5 quake 5 miles away. So much for working, I will be looking at fault maps for a while


Laura - Oct 18, 2023 10:03:57 am PDT #26252 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

Sorry about the whole earth moving under your feet thing, -t.

Keeping patience with kids, even when they are adults, is a serious challenge.


meara - Oct 18, 2023 12:07:03 pm PDT #26253 of 30000

Ugh. I had a migraine last week during a client call, and while I was able to give updates I was not enthusiastic and chipper (for a couple items was like “just tell me what you want and I’ll do it” rather than “sure I can totally do that, would you like X or more Y?”). And now I’ve gotten a talking to about my attitude (the person who did was very kind and I’d told her after that I had a migraine and was logging off, so she told the client when they asked but apparently I was also not chipper enough some mystery other call, and she was like “so let’s not let this become a thing?”) and I mostly want to say “screw them, I quit” but I really can’t/shouldn’t but I also can’t suddenly take multiple days off which I want to do (and because then things would just pile up as I didn’t do them and the thought of the additional work waiting for me would make me more stressed).


Shir - Oct 18, 2023 12:25:09 pm PDT #26254 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

I'm OK, I'm tired (well, exhausted), I'm grieving. I also want this war to end so I can grieve properly.

Here's a good reading [link] I thought I'd go insane reading hot takes from people who are not directly impacted by the horrors here on how only one side is suffering and deserves all of the empathy and the other side is totally evil and should disappear from the face of the earth (and I mean one and other side interchangeably - it's like people watching feel like they have to choose if they should go with antisemitism or Islamophobia and... Ugh. The stupidest timeline). I do not subscribe to this newsletter.

And in hope for today: [link]

Edit: added clarity, I hope


Laura - Oct 18, 2023 12:29:08 pm PDT #26255 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

Oh meara, your head and employers both need to give you a break.

Thank you for the links, Shir. The news here focuses on the destruction. Your links are much more personal and meaningful. I hope you get some rest soon.


-t - Oct 18, 2023 12:45:16 pm PDT #26256 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Ugh meara, that's no good. You should be allowed not to be chipper! i know that's not the reality of many jobs but it really should be.

{{{Shir}}}


smonster - Oct 18, 2023 1:12:16 pm PDT #26257 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

That is stupid, meara, and likely sexist. edit to fix autocorrect mangling of board name

Thank you for checking in, Shir, and those thoughtful words (both yours and others).

Seeing Kesha tonight by myself! Hope it’s the glittery rainbow queer fierce soul mending I need right now.


-t - Oct 18, 2023 1:26:25 pm PDT #26258 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Ooh, have fun smonster!