It's because you didn't have a strong father figure isn't it?

Joyce ,'Chosen'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


erikaj - Sep 14, 2023 11:31:38 am PDT #25352 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!

But I wasn't interested in: a. standing in for his mother Pretending to be jealous cause he found Mariah Carey or somebody hot. And then he got a stipend to go out to DC and talk up(Ha!) his brand of voice synthesizers...he wanted me to come. But when you need attendant services there's no "just going!" anywhere, which, more than this love affair, may be the great sorrow of my life...he swore his company would help, but I didn't trust that. Plus, we hung out for twelve weekends and played house...was not great preparation. Also, blah, blah, college--which I could have dropped like a hot rock but neither I nor my parents could accept that yet--it was ironically, my dumbest argument.


lisah - Sep 14, 2023 12:43:46 pm PDT #25353 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate

Ugh, Matilda’s ex, your timing is stupid.


Atropa - Sep 14, 2023 12:52:32 pm PDT #25354 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

First, oh boy, Matilda's ex. This is not the smartest move, gaining an army of powerful internet strangers-lurkers-aunts-and-uncles to wish bad things upon you. For your own good... Seriously, bad timing dude.

I was about to ask if Matilda wanted her scary goth auntie to do some (mild) hexing. Because I will do that for her.

And damn that's a lot, Hec. Much ongoing love to you, Matilda, and Emmett.

Hugs for everyone. EVERYONE.

Me, I'm in mild panic mode, as I leave for a work trip to the UK on Monday and have to have the annual reviews for my team done AND write a document before then.


Amy - Sep 14, 2023 12:54:18 pm PDT #25355 of 30000
Because books.

WRT to LTRs, though, even if you've had one, the next one could be (will probably be) totally different, simply because individual humans, yada yada.

That said, I could be totally fooling myself. I just can't picture being in another relationship with same dynamics as me and the ex's, but I might just be hoping.


sj - Sep 14, 2023 1:38:29 pm PDT #25356 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

One of my in-laws is wearing entirely too much cologne (which is triggering a migraine). So I’m hiding from them in my room. They’re only really here to see ltc anyway. I can’t even count the amount of times I’ve talked to them about strong scents triggering my asthma/migraines. Luckily they’re all leaving soon and TCG is taking ltc to karate.

And now I want nachos.


Dana - Sep 14, 2023 2:10:16 pm PDT #25357 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

The QI account on Twitter tells me that the word of the day is opsomania, which is a longing for a particular food. So I hope all of you nacho people are happy. And have nachos.


Matt the Bruins fan - Sep 14, 2023 2:19:37 pm PDT #25358 of 30000
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand

Matilda does have a good circle of friends that will quickly spread word of the kid's cruel timing to anyone he might want to ask out for the rest of high school, right? Not that I think that would turn him a pariah among all teenagers (it might enhance his cachet with the ones who romanticize bad boys), but it'd at least let the sensible ones know what they'd be signing up for.


erikaj - Sep 14, 2023 2:19:48 pm PDT #25359 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!

I had some great ones from Filiberto's last week.


JenP - Sep 14, 2023 2:37:52 pm PDT #25360 of 30000

JenP, this is really my first, too… feel free to PM me if you want and we can share experiences.

Thank you, smonster, I will -- that made me realize that, while I do talk to friends sometimes and my therapist (though, we're on a break), there's no one I talk to who has a similar-ish history. And I hope it goes without saying, feel free to do the same with me, too, of course. Yah, my DH was married twice and has a mid-twenties daughter with his second wife. The first one - they got married way too young, and divorced after about a year, no kids. Pretty much no harm no foul on that one. Not so for the second one.

WRT to LTRs, though, even if you've had one, the next one could be (will probably be) totally different, simply because individual humans, yada yada.

That I believe -- it is weird not really having anything to compare to for myself!

The QI account on Twitter tells me that the word of the day is opsomania, which is a longing for a particular food. So I hope all of you nacho people are happy. And have nachos.

How timely! Yes, I hope there was some nacho having all around where desired.


juliana - Sep 14, 2023 4:33:49 pm PDT #25361 of 30000
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…

Catching up, but holy shit Matilda's ex. Bad move, kid. I know some jiu-jitsu guys who teach in Japantown- they'd be happy to do a little light menacing. Or I've got my various barback friends.

Hil, I'm so glad you went to the ER! Wow.

I don't want nachos exactly, but tortilla chips & a variety of dips sounds amazing.