I agree that the universe needs to stop throwing bullshit at David and Matilda. God DAMN.
There are a multitude of great reasons to share your life with another, but anyone who claims it is all easy just isn't telling the truth.
When people say that relationships are hard work, a lot (A LOT) of the time it sounds like they're equating it to enduring painful toiling for very little in return (like working in a sweatshop or something). And I don't know; maybe that's true for them, and that makes me sad for them. Because yeah, there's (at least for me) ongoing work in sustaining a relationship, and sometimes it's hard, but it's more like hard work doing something you love, like if you're into cosplay or historical reenactment -- making those costumes is hard fucking work, sometimes tedious and sometimes frustrating. But ultimately it's hard work in service of something that's incredibly fulfilling that brings you a lot of joy. So you stick with the hard tedious part because you know what's on the other side of it.
Excellent analogy, Teppy.
I would like to discuss all hard tasks over nachos. That sounds preferable to not nachos.
I haven't had lunch yet and now I want nachos.
Nachos do sound like a good idea and I might be able to make that happen. For me, probably not the rest of you, sorry. Although a Nacho Fairy would be wonderful
Lunch update: I did not have nachos. (Turkey sandwich and snap peas with hummus. Tasty, but definitely not nachos.)
I have tacos planned for tomorrow, but now I would also like nachos, thank you.
She's a psychiatrist?! Needs her license revoked asap. Ugh.
Amen. I appreciate your outrage. He was trying to downplay and I was like NO THERE IS NO EXCUSE. She definitely went to school to deal with her trauma and maybe didn’t do therapy. My brother doesn’t know if she was in therapy. How can you date someone for a year and a half and not know? It’s a prereq for me at this point.
And Matilda's ex better hope he never meets a Buffista in a dark alley.
AMEN. As we were reminded on fb, we are a community that likes weapons.
Got a little asscappy there, but I feel like they both deserve it.
JenP, this is really my first, too! I’m 47. My longest relationship was 20 months over 20 years ago and it literally began by me saying, “okay, I’ll date you, but we are breaking up when I got into Peace Corps.” R has been married twice and had another LTR of six years with the mother of his kids, so… feel free to PM me if you want and we can share experiences.
Helloooo, Buffistas.
First, oh boy, Matilda's ex. This is not the smartest move, gaining an army of powerful internet strangers-lurkers-aunts-and-uncles to wish bad things upon you. For your own good... Seriously, bad timing dude.
Buckets of brackets, Hec and all. Buckets of them.
I still have lots of preps before Rosh Hasahana, but I wanted to come here and wish a Shana tova (a good and sweet year). Last year was hard, especially here, for so many. I'm sorry about that. May this year bring healing and health, love and joy, justice, wisdom, laughter, and people who are responsible adults and know what they're doing to appear at the right times and places.
I love you all and greatful for this place. And unless major things will happen, I'm coming to visit sometimes during 2024, or when my work will decide it's time to fly me to the NY office (the earliest of the two).
Shana tova, loved ones.
