Well some friends of Buffy played a funny joke and they took her stuff and now she wants us to help get it back from her friends who sleep all day and have no tans.

Xander ,'Lessons'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Consuela - Jan 17, 2022 7:36:52 pm PST #12169 of 15897
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix

Here's a great article about managing to heal when someone toxic makes something you love: [link]


NoiseDesign - Jan 18, 2022 12:26:46 am PST #12170 of 15897
"You'd think a house full of crazy people would be fun. It's actually really depressing." --Bart Simpson

Whedon was not the first boss in the history of moving pictures to make a writer cry.

This is also because so much of the entertainment industry is just broken and toxic.


Calli - Jan 18, 2022 6:56:05 am PST #12171 of 15897
Why do trees keep happening? — Eukaryote Writes

Thanks for the article, Consuela.

One thing that the Vulture article mentioned was that Buffy was considered feminist, but wasn't really. And, I think that claim suffers a bit from being made in 2022. When Buffy came out, I think it was pretty feminist for its milieu. But culturally we've moved past it. Which is a good thing, but cultural context does matter.

Joss can be a terrible boss, especially to the women on his staff and cast, and still write stuff that's feminist. People write themes they aren't personally living all the time.


Dana - Jan 18, 2022 7:16:31 am PST #12172 of 15897
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

Awesome, covid exposure at work last week. Sigh.


Steph L. - Jan 18, 2022 9:10:13 am PST #12173 of 15897
It's actually been a really hard year, when you stop and do the math. Eliot would cry, too, if it didn't take him seventy minutes of therapy, two cocktails, and a Sondheim medley before he can experience a human emotion through the haze of his PTSD.

Tim's dad is going to start receiving hospice care, although at this point he doesn't have a timeline (like 6 months to live, 6 weeks to live, etc). But he didn't really participate in his post-stroke rehab, and he's not eating much and my brother-in-law described it as "he's just winding down."

Something that complicates things is that when Tim's dad was in the hospital 3-4 weeks ago, they ordered a lab test for TB, and it takes 6 weeks to get that back, because the sample has to be cultured that long. With the Covid precautions at the nursing home (full gown, gloves, mask and face shield, hair covering), even if he has TB, it seems highly unlikely to be transmitted. However, Tim is at higher risk for TB because of the meds he takes for his RA, and has to get a TB test once a year. So not knowing whether his dad has it, he hasn't visited his dad in 3 weeks, and he's losing precious time. My opinion is that (1) his dad almost certainly doesn't have it (he doesn't have symptoms, so I don't know why the hospital ordered the test), and (2) with the full PPE precautions that are required for Covid right now, the odds of anything being transmitted are vanishingly low.

Tim talked to his rheumatologist today, who basically said the same thing: if Tim wears full PPE, he should be fine, if he really feels he needs to see his dad. (I don't like the way he worded "really feels he needs to see his dad" -- like, this is an end of life issue, sir. Yes, he needs to see his dad.)

Why does shit have to be so goddamn complicated all the fucking time? Just a tiny break would be nice, you know?


juliana - Jan 18, 2022 9:18:39 am PST #12174 of 15897
Tell me the ghost in the machine is real

Why does shit have to be so goddamn complicated all the fucking time? Just a tiny break would be nice, you know?

Word. Big support to everyone. Shit needs to get easier.

I'm keeping Peanut home from school today, because there was a cluster of COVID cases in her classroom (including her teacher) & I don't feel like taking that risk. M thinks I'm being too fearful, but I know I'd blame myself if Peanut caught it & I just can't deal with that on top of everything else. Cosmic Kids Yoga is my friend & co-teacher today.


EpicTangent - Jan 18, 2022 9:21:32 am PST #12175 of 15897
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty

Geez, Steph, that is a lot of Very Hard to hit at once. I wish you and Tim and his family all the best navigating your way through. Much ~ma to you all.


Consuela - Jan 18, 2022 9:53:37 am PST #12176 of 15897
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix

[link]

Midnight Pals is a thing where horror writers gather and tell stories, but really it's a satirical Twitter feed.


Steph L. - Jan 18, 2022 9:57:30 am PST #12177 of 15897
It's actually been a really hard year, when you stop and do the math. Eliot would cry, too, if it didn't take him seventy minutes of therapy, two cocktails, and a Sondheim medley before he can experience a human emotion through the haze of his PTSD.

Midnight Pals is a thing where horror writers gather and tell stories, but really it's a satirical Twitter feed.

Oh my god, I lost it when Mary Shelley showed up and pulled out a switchblade.


DavidS - Jan 18, 2022 10:02:04 am PST #12178 of 15897
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

I don't feel like taking that risk. M thinks I'm being too fearful

I'll note that lots of parents are holding kids out from Matilda's HS for the last week and probably part of this week. There have been a few COVID exposures, but generally everybody is trying to lay low until the surge dies down. The school is fine with it.

I'd say Matilda's school is almost at half capacity (which also makes it safer for her to go school).

I don't know how she's dodged the virus [knock wood] but she is super conscientious about mask wearing and safe behavior. She gets her booster on Saturday and I feel like I've been holding my breath the whole time.

Recently we found that that JZ's cousin got COVID, lost her sense of smell, recovered it and then she got the weird side effect that everything smells like rotten meat. It sounds so horrible.

In other COVID news, the 4th booster shot they're giving in Israel is not having much effect in stopping Omicron infection (though still effective at preventing serious illness and hospitalization). So I think we're going to have to wait for an Omicron specific vax which would probably be May at the earliest. That's discouraging.