Thanks, Gud. DoorDash can bring me that!

Anecdote disclaimers: they did eventually get divorced, my sister's name was not automatically changed wither when they got married or when they got divorced, she did change her name but not to her (now ex) husband's name.

OMG THAT GUY!

Are you good friends? Should I not talk smack about him?

By "maiden name," he means HER NAME, right?? I think he might be freaked out because you have your husband's name on FB, and isn't that the final legal arbiter of what your name is?

(Let me check that with my cousin "Sheikh Yurbooti"....)

Are you good friends?

Nope. It's the slightly awkward scenario where he thinks we're better friends than we are.

Should I not talk smack about him?

Talk ALL the smack about him that you want!

I think he might be freaked out because you have your husband's name on FB, and isn't that the final legal arbiter of what your name is?

Ha! Could be.

(Let me check that with my cousin "Sheikh Yurbooti"....)

Oooh. When I legally change my name, THAT'S what I'ma change it to!

So Matthew and I took a break from rearranging the house for when his mother moves in and went for a nice lunch.

Where our order seems to have been forgotten. I did go and ask and get a cookie which is tasty but we ordered 2 sandwiches and it's getting close to 20 mins with no food. The next step is asking for a refund and going some place emse

Oooh. When I legally change my name, THAT'S what I'ma change it to!

It is actually available, because (don't tell) that is not his legal name!

So, I got a Pastor Super Burrito and two shrimp tacos because of the comments on Lee's FB post the other day, thinking I could eat maybe the tacos and have the burrito for dinner or something. The tacos turned out to also be "super", so I had one of them and like 2 bites of the burrito just to see what it tasted like and now I am so full. Good choice, Gud!

It is actually available, because (don't tell) that is not his legal name!

Whaaaaaaaat.

-t, is a "Pastor" Super Burrito filled with lamb or clergy?

They could stay in Florida for the summer as my son would take care of them here, but I think they will like it in the woods. I just hope they don't catch and bring me home chipmunks! I would keep them inside a week or so before I let them out up there. I have a screened in porch where they could sit on the windowsills and watch the world go by, but I am not sure the screens would survive.

Laura, if you don't know/do this already, you might want to check with your vet to see if your pets need to be vaccinated against Lyme Disease. My poor dog had it really bad. It was discovered during her first year with us (she was a rescue). She was treated with an antibiotic and seems to have recovered, but there can be long term effects of the disease. I don't know if Lyme is a risk in FL, but it is in the northeast (which is where I gather your cottage is).

A different friend commented to tell me that because I'm a married woman, I need way more documents to get the Real ID thingie. I said that, actually, I haven't legally changed my name, so all my legal documents are the same as they've been for 48 years. He said "No, Social Security will flag it if you don't provide proof!" And I asked, "How do I prove that I *didn't* legally change my name?"

He's doubling down on the insistence that there's some kind of "proof" that I don't know about that I am required to produce at the BMV. My dude, it is literally my birth certificate and SS card, which I have in my possession, which both indicate that my name is the same as it's ever been. Back off.

Before the earth cooled (and before 9/11/2001), I half-assed changed my name. I changed it at work. I changed it with the DMV for my license. I filed my taxes under my married name (because that's how I was paid). That was it.

Sometime after 9/11, Social Security started cross-checking its data with that of our state's DMV. They flagged me, because I'd changed my name with the DMV and when I filed my taxes, so I had to go down to Social Security and change it there, too.

 If I had it to do over again, I only would have used my husband's name in social circumstances, because people just assume you have the last name as your kids. I would have kept my maiden name on all my official things.

And yeah, Tep, that guy's just an idiot. Since you've never used Tim's name officially, your last name is the same it has always been. It's the changing that screws things up, not the keeping-the-saming.