Allyson, you're a wonderful person, and truly every parent has 5 million doubts a day. You're niece would be lucky to have you. I'm so sorry for everything your family is going through. If you need anything at all when you're visiting, give me a shout.
River: The human body can be drained of blood in 8.6 seconds given adequate vacuuming systems. Mal: See, morbid and creepifying, I got no problem with, long as she does it quiet-like.
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Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
sj - May 06, 2019 2:38:04 am PDT #7498 of 30019
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
-t - May 06, 2019 3:23:23 am PDT #7499 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Oh, Allyson. So much love to you and your niece.
Laura - May 06, 2019 3:30:21 am PDT #7500 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.
Allyson, first, what sj said about parental doubts. Also, I'm sorry this is such a horrible and stressful experience for your family. Your niece is fortunate to have such support and you will do a great job. Love and hugs.
msbelle - May 06, 2019 4:41:21 am PDT #7501 of 30019
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
I am here to talk to you for the next 18 years about parental doubts. My messed up headspace, let me share it with you.
I believe in you and know that you will fight fiercely for your niece and love her completely. That is A LOT.
Topic!Cindy - May 06, 2019 4:45:53 am PDT #7502 of 30019
What is even happening?
Love to you and yours, Allyson. I have a family member who adopted a sibling's child in similar circumstances. Wishing you all the best.
WindSparrow - May 06, 2019 4:49:27 am PDT #7503 of 30019
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
To all the Buffistas experiencing family stress - msbelle, Gud, Allyson, Jesse, Laura, and others - may you each have some moments of the kind of peace I have right now with Harvey just sleeping on my chest. Just a little respite, a little heaven, a time to simply love and be loved without having to strive for anything else.
Laura - May 06, 2019 5:01:14 am PDT #7504 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.
Thank you Andi, I had a moment of peace just reading that!
Amy - May 06, 2019 5:27:54 am PDT #7505 of 30019
Because books.
So much love and support, Allyson. I can't imagine how hard that is, especially long distance. Your niece is a very lucky kid to have you in her corner.
Gudanov - May 06, 2019 5:33:08 am PDT #7506 of 30019
Coding and Sleeping
Thanks, WindSparrow.
Wow Allyson, that's a lot to deal with. I hope it works out.
Kate P. - May 06, 2019 6:00:12 am PDT #7507 of 30019
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
Allyson, what an awful situation. I am fiercely hoping that you are able to adopt your niece, and so glad to hear that she is happy and safe with your parents right now.
I've been preparing to adopt her. I love her so much. It's scary, and I have five million doubts a day. I'm worried about so many things, and also excited to be a parent and make her breakfast and walk her to school and and make messes in the garden.
Just to echo sj, this sounds totally right for anyone contemplating becoming a parent. It is scary, and we all have countless doubts and worries, and also the love you have for her, and the enjoyment you have, and will have, in her presence will carry you through, along with the books and therapy and support from all the many loving members of your community, us included. I so hope that you get to be the one to raise her.